SECTION I: LOOKING AT THEIR BEHAVIOUR
- Find out whether your friend constantly disappoint you. If he/she is someone who fail you frequently, he is a fake friend.
- Pay attention to their only- me behavior. If they always wish good things for only themselves, they aren't good friend.
- Look our for uncaring traits. Do they care for you?, do they have the traits to care for you?.
- Watch out for signs that they support you and your interest. Don they support your dreams or against it???
- Check if they accept your flaws or throw them in your face. A good friend will always accept you and your flaws then find means to correct it.
- Spot signs of guilt- tripping. If your friend, trys to make you feel bad for not been able to do his wish,they are bad friends
SECTION II: SPOTTING COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS
- Watch and see if they listen to you or just being listened to. Check if they give you attention, or they just want it for themselves.
- Set a boundary and see if they respect it. Try to distance yourself from them and see if they feel it within them.
- Look for signs of envy or jealousy. Are they always jealous when you are happy??
- Take note of passive- aggressive tendency. Find out of they say yes to you in an aggressive way. If they follow your wish in an aggressive way.
- See if your secret somehow became public knowledge. Find out if he exposes your secrets or keep it.
- Notice if you hear from the person often. If the person calls or text you often, then they care and they are good friends.
SECTION III: FORMING AUTHENTIC FRIENDSHIP
- Reevaluate your friendship. Think if you still want to continue with the friendship. If you still stand to gain something.
- Have a talk with the friend. Let him/her know his/her offence.
- Lower your expectation to protect you from getting hurt. Never rely on the friend, they could disappoint you. Dont rely on them.
- Connect with people with whom you have common interest and value. Relate with people you share the same goal with.
- Use caution when sharing personal info with new friends. Dont share your lifestyle with new friends, people you can't rely on.