I have been so curious about the word: MASTURBATION and I heard many things; negative and positive.
I was both confused and convinced! Hence, l went on an extensive finding: I spoke with different people: boys and girls, victims and non victims, and most importantly, experts.
The result?
I found so many things:
First, I discovered that young people get into the act mainly to ease themselves of the burning sexual urge. So i paid more attention to its implications on our sexual life now and afterwards.
The benefits are non existent; but the effects are numerous and damaging!! And I must confess, I was scared.
Now, young people who engage in the act feel so good of having the chance to relieve themselves of the burning sexual urge.
Yet, our ability to bottle up those urges is the gateway to enjoying a satisfied sexual life in marriage. We may never know this until we are married and faced with the consequences.
Thank God for knowledge!!
But wait a minute, I will explain these consequences later.
I also discovered that many young girls also masturbate a lot only that they are very secretive about it.
Plus, many people tend to excuse themselves that they do not want to fornicate, so they have to find a means of relieving themselves least they burn to death.
On the contrary, masturbation is both a means to and fornication in itself!
Nevertheless, some experts have argued that, masturbation, if kept under control, is necessary for sexual development and other related health benefits associated with sex for unmarried people. But that cannot be trusted because it is akin to playing with a speck of fire which may set the whole house ablaze.
Now, to understand how masturbation ruin sex in marriage, let's talk about sex a little.
Enjoyment in sex comes from the man's ability to ride in and out for a long time without ejaculating. We need to settle this once and for all so that we young people will understand the foundation for fulfilling sexual life in marriage, and masturbation can ruin that enjoyment.
A man must be able to hold it for as long as possible before shooting because once he shoots, the final whistle is blown.
If he did not ride long enough, the wife will then be left helpless: her body craving for more. This could mark the beginning of trouble in the home because the place of sex in marriage is very vital to the continual existence of the union.
It is commonly called:
PREMATURE EJACULATION.
And, excessive masturbation is one of its major causes. Here is where masturbation ruins your sex life in the rightful place called marriage.
But, how did we get here? Read on.
The man is used to getting a release WITHOUT WAITING! he is accustomed to going solo and pouring quickly. But then, he does not yet understand that there is a price attached to it.
Some men's cases are so worse that while the woman is still undressing, he has already come.
This is the height of it all.
and it the most annoying thing in marriage.
As a victim lamented
Then, for the ladies who are used to always achieving orgasm through dildo and solo stroking among other things they won’t won't enjoy sex either.
She won't be able to wait for the man to work on her, because she is so used to the orgasm that she can't feel nor desire the sexual experience anymore.
This is why so women always complain that they don’t enjoy sex in marriage anymore no matter how hard their man may try.
This is how excessive masturbation ruin sex in marriage, because you have not experienced the frustration associated with it in marriage, you may not think we are only making thing up. It is a perfect example of:
Who no go no know
So take note not to ruin you marriage ahead.
On the health side, excessive masturbation depletes the body of essential nutrients which are hardly ever replaced. It leads to loss of etheric energy. Etheric energy is an energy that we are born with which is required to live a healthy, long life. The resultant effects are:
- Rapid aging and early death because one' vitality goes down with ease.
- Irritability and unsteadiness.
- Low self-esteem.
- Loss of will power and certain types of weakness of the mind and body; thinking is impaired.
- Adrenal burnout that leads to depression, despair, anxiety and feeling lonely.
Normality can, however, be achieved by abstinence for several months with the consumption of enough red meat and other nutritious food.
Yet, obedience is better than sacrifice: hold your body. Self control is a quality you must possess if you want to enjoy sex in marriage.
Don’t even go there: fornication is not the way out either. Fornication and masturbation are twin brother and sister. Abstinence remains the best option.
On that note you will have to be strong and be determined to hold yourself:
- Seek the Creator’s help.
- Get yourself busy working on your dreams and goals. Idle hand is the devil’s workshop.
- Be filled with the word: it is the light to your paths.
- Avoid pornography and sexual scenes in movies and books.
- Get off relationships that dwell on such matters.
- Set short term goals over long term goals. Resolve not to masturbate for the next one hour rather than for the next two weeks. One hour will become two hours, three, four hours, then, one day, two days, weeks, and months.
- Set a reward system for yourself. When you have achieved a goal, reward yourself. But not with masturbation, don’t be temped to try it again. When the urges comes, think of all the consequences; there is absolutely no benefits.
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If the urge becomes so intense, go take a walk, be engage in a task of some sort, or find means to be with friends and loved ones and chat away.
Remember, you have everything to lose by indulging in it, but you have nothing to lose by holding yourself. Quote me anywhere.
I hope this has helped one or two persons in a way. Thanks for reading.
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