This past week has been challenging.
We decided to get both our daughters tonsils removed at the same time. I thought it would be a good idea and not so challenging. Wow what a surprise I got. The one thing I wish is that I could take their pain away or make it easy. I could do nothing for them except comforting them and pray that the pain medicine kicks in quickly.
Tonight while I was waiting for them to fall asleep I was watching them. The easy part of this whole thing is you can sooth the physical pain and see if there's pain and do something about it… the scars will go away, the pain also goes away. Me and my oldest daughter had a talk before they went to bed about fear of going back to school because of some of her classmates that's making fun of her because of her tonsils. During this conversation a few other stuff came out of friends that’s bullying her with words. That's the scars that can not be healed with medicine or a doctor. This made me sad because sometimes we as parents miss this scars as well.
If she didn’t tell me this I wouldn’t even notice it because she is my happy child. What do parents do when they don’t have a relationship with their child that's open. I can help her, encourage her to do the right thing and not to lose hope. But this deep heart scar takes lot more care and love to heal. This week with its challenge made me realize how much more I want to be there for them, how much more I want to listen to them and comfort them were I can and help them to get healing for the heart scars.
My question is how many times are we so busy with our own hurts, disappointments that we miss our kids hurt or disappointments? I believe that our care, comfort and love that we put in our kids makes a difference and can make a difference in the kids who is the bullies. We are here to make a difference and help our kids to make a difference.
We won't always know how to handle this, we might even want to do something to this bully but the example we set for them on how to handle a bully is far more important. I told my daughter that she knows the truth,she knows who she is! And no one can ever change that. She must just keep on being the light God made her to be because somewhere along the line it will change the bully's heart. We started to pray for them and it's amazing to see how her attitude changed and she is more confident than ever.
My you be inspired on how to help your child to get the scars get healed.
