Punishing children in Islam has been described in detail. Because Islam has a great concept. Not from the superpower, nor from our own version of ourselves. But from the Creator (Al-Qur'an and As-Sunnah). To see the application is very easy. We simply read the history of how the Prophet educated his companions, as well as other Islamic histories. This is what I got in Kuttab Al-Fatih for 3 Years.
The concept of punishing bad boys for deterrence does not have to be hit and can with non-violent firmness, but not ignore it. Because Islam is the ummatan of the (middle man) ummatan, in the midst of all affairs.
- Punish the child with Firmness
The first child punishment according to Islam is firmness, assertiveness is different from anger. Firmness to educate while angry for his passions. Since I have taught at Kuttab Al Fatih, I was taught to preach adab before science, the importance of adab before science.
So the assertive nature must be owned by every teacher. Because science alone is not enough if the teacher does not have firmness. High science is important, but firmness is more important. Keep in mind the quality of teachers is the quality of pupils.
If there is a child who is not good at the time of the lesson then should not be allowed. A teacher must be firm and direct. The bad we banned and the good we appreciate. To use the concept of firmness must be accompanied by stages. note the explanation below:
Why Punish Brat Kids Must Use Order?
One of the Islamic concepts that have been applied in Kuttab is the Order. There are many examples that illustrate the nature of the order in Islam, such as the moment of revelation, beginning with the letter of Makkiah and Madaniah. Propagation process of the Prophet, starting from family to close friends. The process of teaching the child's prayer, the order of punishment in the child who left the prayer, and many other examples.
So also with the punishment of children, should be through sequence and done gradually or gently.
I give you an airplane analogy that will take off. Any aircraft that will go down, certainly not directly down from top to bottom but will go down slowly. What will happen if from the top straight down ?? The aircraft will be destroyed.
So the punishment on the child should be like the plane's airstrip. If there are children who violate, do not be hit immediately but must be slowly in the order of the aircraft.
For example: I'm teaching the kids, and reading out existing things in the class, like silence, no chatting during classes, etc. Then I give firmness to whoever violates. The assertiveness is in the order shown below:
- If there are children who chat after the rules then he will get 1 warning.
- If still chatting, get 2 warnings.
- Still chatting again? standing 5 minutes only.
- Still chatting again? stand 10 minutes, and so on until the child does not repeat again. of course with a gentle stage so that children feel comfortable.
If the above points are applied, God willing the child will change, because he does not want to be punished even harder. In addition, children will also accept sincerely because previously there have been signs of the count and the stages of us.
This article is taken and translated from : http://www.abanaonline.com/2016/11/pendidikan-kuttab-cara-menghukum-anak-dalam-islam.html?m=1