Educational psychologist Najeela Shihab said teachers and students are equally distressed in the classroom and feel not free and helpless. "The feelings of distress and fear are not independent and powerless in relation to the teaching and learning practices that are conducted throughout the school year.The data show that violence occurs not only during school hours, but on the way to and from school, even in out-of-curricular events organized student organizations or related, "said Najeela. The relationship of teachers and students, he said, is only seen as a demographic or resource bonus.Najeela who is also an educator added, during this child grows based on understanding the moral value and social behavior of what is learned from the environment.
For example, by disciplining with threats, why friends who do abuse get applause, how teachers do not emulate independence. "Look, around us the use of prohibited substances, digital games that introduce the blood, the pressing poverty, so do not be surprised when our children fall victim, the pattern of student intercourse in school, the level of damage or loss of goods, the number of students who are absent from lessons and teachers who are absent from work, this should be all yellow cards for education that are always ignored, "he said. In addition, the handling of violence in education, rarely impacts sustainable. "At a time of anger, we are determined to increase oversight, which is often the site of high-risk student labels, whereas the analysis of the data shows that the grouping of troubled students leads to a decrease in confidence and an unhealthy 'gank' increase. excessive punishment, not only in court but also in school regulations, whereas recent research has proved that threats and fears have long-term effects on individual brain development throughout the ages and environmental cultures of all time, "he said. According to him, there should be intervention before children need counseling and therapy.
School rules are not just forced rules. "The positive discipline that is practiced by the teacher is ultimately driving change, not just the declaration of a budget-consuming document. This is the key of an independent teacher and a capable pupil, which we need," he said. Positive discipline is not obedient, but the child is conscious and responsible, so the child can think not just discipline. The rules should be explained and there is a reason, because nowadays information is everywhere only from teachers. So the behavior shift is not just from "games", Television but it is because the interaction patterns of the world change. The world of education in Indonesia is currently in a state of concern related to the rampant acts of violence that occurred in schools. Ironically this act of violence involves two parties who should have positive interactions or relationships, ie teachers and students, both then they become perpetrators or victims. Of course this condition can not be tolerated, Sahabat as a parent also has a role important enough to prevent it by improving the quality of educational relationships between parents, children, and teachers.
Increase Chat Intensity
Usually, the close proximity of the relationship between two people is influenced by how much they communicate with each other (eg by chat). By often chatting, we can find out more about our interlocutors, including their characteristics. Therefore parents should be able to try to allocate time to chat and share each other, both with the child and with the teacher. The intensity of adequate communication will make us open to each other so that parents and teachers can identify the problems that children are facing from the beginning before the problems they face are protracted and enlarged.
Building a Liquid Relationship (Multiperan)
As adults, we need to present ourselves flexibly in the presence of children. There are times when a teacher acts as a friend of discussion or an older brother (adult) who can understand teenage issues. Parents can also be fun friends at a certain moment when at other times he is a "feared" masquerade with all the authority he has. A single role such as teachers who only served to teach science in school and parents who are only in charge of earning a living and providing pocket money alone will make children fail to understand the figure of an adult as a whole human.
Social Relations Education in School
Parties who must cooperate in the learning process of children in school are parents and teachers. So, a good relationship must be established between parents, children, and teachers. What is the good relationship here? Good relationship in question is the establishment of comfort, trust, and openness (intense communication) in carrying out daily activities. This good relationship must be established between parents and children, children and teachers, as well as teachers and parents to prevent possible violent acts between them.
Understanding the Characteristics and Needs of Children
Every child is unique. We as adult parties should not be uniformed in the way of assistance for all children, both children in school (class members) and at home (siblings). Therefore, the first step we can take is to understand their characteristics. Learn more about the uniqueness of each child, whether he is an active, sensitive, temperamental, critical, and so on. What he likes, how to learn, how his friendship, and so forth. In fact, we also need to know how usually the characteristics of the first child, second, and so on. All these things we can know in various ways ranging from opening academic documents to observing them directly. After knowing the characteristics, the things we need to understand is what he needs, especially in the learning process. A child who has not sharpened his creativity ability will have the need to enrich his references on how to create something. A child who is not appreciative will need an understanding of the importance of appreciation. A child who has difficulty in calculating would need more assistance when studying mathematics. A child who likes to seek attention in a variety of ways, including by doing bad things, may need more attention and time together than his parents and teachers.
Making Parent-Teacher Relationships a Partner
Often schools become "child care" places while parents work. Many parents who still believe today if the school is a place to educate the main child without the need for help or cooperation from home. This condition is exacerbated by the lack of communication that exists between home and school so that the child's assistance becomes incomplete. So, by making teachers as partners, parents can begin to build communication and cooperation to know each other's progress, what little achievements they have achieved, and what obstacles they are facing in their daily lives. Departing from it, parents and teachers can know each other the difficulties and challenges that are faced in assisting the learning process of each child.
Implementing Positive Discipline
Positive Discipline deals with the application of nonviolent discipline. In the positive discipline there is the concept of Loving Authority that makes parents and teachers can act decisively to the child but the child understands it as a form of attention so that the relationship will remain good. For further a Friend can learn it in this article: Positive Discipline : Building Discipline Value Without Violence. Preventing acts of violence in schools can be done by improving the relationship between parents, children, and teachers.
While the key to a good relationship is the establishment of communication is also good. May we as parents be able to play an important role that should be in the education process of children, so that our families can stay safe and avoid any potential hazards.
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