Go to school, make money, get married and then start a home
That is the trend we were born into. But then, something happens along the line. We find out we're not as happy as we thought we would be after saying 'I do'. Things go from bad to worse and continues like that until we eventually cannot take it anymore and opt for a way out...
Divorce!
But it should not be this way. It happens because if certain mistakes we make that affects our marriage and leads to divorce.
So here are some mistakes we should avoid before we say YES I DO to that special someone.
1) Married too fast
It is vital you don't just jump into marriage because he or she is beautiful and you can't let go, many couples get married too fast and too soon without the real knowledge of who their intending partner really are. This happens when two people get hooked on the looks and overlook fundamental differences between one another. Since God is the author of marriage, it is utmost unavoidable to sideline Him in our choices of marriage. When people rush into a marriage without getting to know one another, there is a high risk of marital failure. Absence of shared interest will definitely be the order of the day, leading to divorce.
2) Communication breakdown
This is the primary reason many marriages end in divorce. Communication is the bedrock of marriage but very many couple put this fact under the carpet, unknowingly to them that they are creating a vacuum that will endanger their marriage after a period of time, couples who are not careful enough will drastically put an end to their marriage when there is communication breakdown which also will give room to disagreement .
3) Cheating and infidelity
This is a very serious issue ravaging marriages in the 21st century. Cheating and marital infidelity are major reasons people get divorced. The truth is, no man will still love and keep a woman under his roof with this alarming behavior happening in marriages. Trust me, this happen more than you might think. Plenty of people engage in some form of physical or emotional infidelity. Well if you think men do it more than women, think again. In some tradition it can lead to the death of the male partner if the female partner is involved in this act.
4) Bedroom boredom
I put it to you that bedroom boredom is another major reason marriages fail. Every relationship at the beginning is very smooth and also sexual energy stabilized to the high esteem but as time passes by it may eventually wax cold may be due to familiarity or other factors depending on individual. If not watched closely, intimacy in the bedroom can cause atrophy.
5) Money and financial issues
Money is good but at the same time the root of all evil is also the Ego. Lack of money is another factor facing our married couple today. Note, no man will be comfortable if there is no money, so also the woman to cater for the home, but most of the time our marriage collapse once there is scarcity of money and this happen when love for money is measured above the love for both partner. Often time, this element is the major reason marriage don't thrive for a test of time. In fact, if not well treated it can give birth to divorce .
Even long standing couples have found their marriages in disagreement because majority believe " for better, not for worse" once you marry someone because of money, there is a tendency of divorce once financial crisis arises because the primary reason of that marriage has been abused.
6) Lack of romance
Romance is a construct that can be hard to understand. At its peak, we are talking about spicing up relationship at all time irrespective of circumstances surrounding the couple, in some cases couple do engaged in some level of romance at the initial stage of their marriage, once there are kids, they transfer their passion to the kids forgetting each others' emotional needs, knowingly or unknowing creating a vacuum in their relationship. This involves adding some level of passion in the relationship that goes beyond physical closeness is absolutely paramount. Naturally women like to feel their husbands make them feel special in some way, so also Men. A lack of romance can sometimes be traced to a fear of intimacy, contributing to divorce in marriages.
7) Differences in background
This point in many ways relates to reason. Many marriages break because of little but differences in background, culture, family, tradition, religion, spirituality and economic background also contribute to this problem. This is because some couples decide to marry too quickly without looking at the major differences that exist between one another.
8) Boredom with other person
Not feeling any form of excitement about a spouse is another vital reason many couples get divorced. Simply put, when one or both parties in the relationship believe their marriage is no longer fun or no longer interesting, withdraw and drifting can occur.
As you might imagine, this can also cause a spouse to have a wandering eye or go out and cheat. Boredom can also spark conversations about having an open marriage, which some spouses turn to as a way of salvaging their marriages.
There you have it! Divorce is never an happy situation and avoiding it using the above quick tips would help you have a sound marriage.
Thanks for reading!