There is something called healthy narcissism, a balance between nurturing one's self-esteem and also cultivating healthy relationships.
But before that, I like to think that there's something called necessary narcissism, a difficult phase grownups need to go through in order to grow and be happy.
In this phase, you:
- Reject anything familiar and comfortable.
- Make unpopular decisions that will upset your friends or family.
- Hurt others willingly not out of spite, but for growth.
- Isolate yourself somewhat.
- Disrespect your elders and seniors.
- Leave behind old relationships permanently.
- Be actively selfish, watching out for yourself first and foremost.
Then you can achieve healthy narcissism.
The underlying message here is simply this: You get to care for yourself.
Count yourself lucky if you're in a stage where it isn't so difficult to do so.
Regardless, it'll be necessary.
I hope you don't take too long or that it doesn't take a traumatic event for you to start being necessary for yourself.
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