How to discipline our children
When talking about discipline to our children, the first thing that comes to our parents' mind is the punishment of their children. Discipline in children is necessary, since they need to be punished when the occasion warrants it. Through discipline we can put into practice a series of principles of order and perseverance, leading an orderly life with duties and objectives, the discipline imparts the home of education and upbringing instilled by the family and parents or people who are in charge of raising children, establishing norms and hours. Time to eat, to go to bed etc.
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Strategies of how to discipline
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• Love your child
• Never discipline when you are upset
• Do not abuse the child, discipline
• Before punishing or disciplining your child, do not do so in public
• Do not discipline the child in front of friends
• Teach your child that discipline is a biblical principle
• Tell your child that you love him and that you are disciplining him because God demands it
• Do not force yourself to stop him to discipline him Punish until you repent
Love your child and forgive him
• Offenses and disrespect on the part of your child deserves punishment
• Do not remind your child what he or she did after
It must be disciplined positively, it is known that for parents this is not an easy task since it requires work and time. But today we parents live in a permanent career, we are all busy and stressed because we lack time for our children and less to discipline them wisely.
Why do you think there are so many disrespectful, disobedient and rebellious children today? Correct discipline is where there is first dialogue, understanding of the facts, prayer to ask God for wisdom. Example I do not know if to you but it has happened to me that at the critical moment of a problem with my children, I have said to him like this: you are not going to use the computer for three weeks. But after I'm calm, I start thinking, but that's many days! Unfortunately, retracting emotions puts reasoning out of control.
At that time, the tendency is to exaggerate and to enlarge the problem. The outburst of anger extreme anger does not contribute to apply a correct and positive discipline as it is uncontrolled, abrupt, and without reflection. And it is valid to think that this way of discipline can bring good results since the son can hardly make the same mistake out of fear of the same punishment. As a father I honestly have the doubt left and the child really learned the lesson of the behavior itself. Or if his heart remained in peace and without resentment with his father or mother.
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I would like to mention that there are 4 stages in fatherhood in which parents should focus their strategies when interacting with their children and these are:
• Years of discipline (1-5)
• Years of training (1-10)
• Years of guidance (12-18)
• Years of companionship and friendship (18+)
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During all these stages of growth of our children it is necessary to apply the discipline in an applied way that will put the child is according to their age.
Example you can not apply discipline or do not intend to put limits and rules to their children in the stage of adolescence if in the previous stages of training did not have them, many parents make the mistake of thinking that when children are small there is no need discipline them if not bigger. But let me tell you that it is just the opposite, they need discipline and correction and teaching when they are forming.
I sincerely hope that God gives you wisdom to apply a consistent and positive discipline with your beloved son. Children need to be disciplined, even they value this but they need discipline with love. In fact God uses discipline with us his children because he loves us immensely to help us grow and learn from his own mistakes. Do not forget that the loving father corrects his son with love.
