The development of autonomy in children and adolescents is essential for their future
The development of autonomy is essential for their future, but sometimes some family attitudes that are beneficial may go unnoticed. That's why, today I'm going to talk about that matter. The arrival of a child to the life of the family is full of experiences. Adults go through several situations that lead them to question the best way to educate. Many parents, due to various factors, are insecure about the process of beginning the construction of autonomy in the little ones. Early autonomy helps even in their cognitive performance. So how do you encourage your child to be more autonomous early?.
Giving children early autonomy helps even in their cognitive performance. So, How to encourage your child to be more autonomous early?
Encourage age-appropriate activities
Do not do for your son what he can do alon e! Many parents often confuse excessive care with affection and help, this happens for several reasons, such as lack of time and information about the specific skills of each age group.
Teaching to put on shoes alone is a task that requires time and in the course of the day you run the risk of choosing to make the child win time or even without knowing that at a certain age you can be encouraged to take some action only with safety and dexterity
From 2 to 3 years
The child can feed himself, sit at the table, store toys, put shoes without laces and be easy to use.
From 3 to 4 years
Your child can now go to the bathroom alone, but still with his supervision. At that age it is still possible to fix the backpack for school, separate the dirty clothes from the clean one (for that you can carry in your backpack bags of two colors, one to clean and another one for dirty and at home to have baskets with the same two colors of the bags).
From 4 to 5 years
In this age group, the child, if stimulated, already manages to move around and do his own personal hygiene alone. It is also possible to make some meals without help, such as passing gelatin in the bread, with an object without a blade.
from 5 years old
The child can already do some domestic activities alone, such as organizing the room, fixing the bed, washing the dishes that are not heavy and contributing to the preparation of some foods. It is also important to encourage the child to take care of the house in different ways, for example: water the plants, feed the animals and take care of the recyclable waste, for example.
Be careful with frequent fights
Reprimanding your child in necessary situations is important for the construction of a personality with solid values for a good coexistence in society. However, you must have good sense, be careful not to always speak in a negative tone, be very impulsive.
Remember that your child is learning about the world and needs to feel safe to keep developing. The thoughtless fights end up turning him into an insecure adult and very dependent on the opinion of others. Therefore, before giving the fight, make sure that this intervention helps you to be a better person.
Fights only make sense to the child when he understands the reason for the reprimand. For that reason, encouraging her to reflect on the consequences of her actions is a fundamental role in the construction of autonomy.
Encourage options and problem solving. As your child grows, new challenges arise. Encourage them to solve their own problems, making it clear that you will be nearby to provide the necessary support.
Discuss disagreements with colleagues and the importance of apologizing and reconciling friendships, as well as explaining the reason for the inconvenience, trying to resolve conflicts through dialogue. And, above all, we must always remember to ask what he thinks is right and what he wants to do, to observe how he seeks to resolve conflicts and thus be able to mediate in that formation.
Contrary to what one might think, to encourage and develop autonomy is not to let the child do what he wants. On the contrary, he is paying attention to his answers and guiding the best choices, but without deciding for them or ignoring his opinion. With balance and common sense, educate an emotionally strong, determined and confident person.
Source of information
- http://msue.anr.msu.edu/news/the_little_toddler_that_could_autonomy_in_toddlerhood
- https://medicalxpress.com/news/2015-01-autonomous-tots-higher-cognitive-skills.html
- http://uy.emedemujer.com/relaciones/no-hagas-hijo-lo-puede-solo/
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