As parents we do not have a manual that tells us what to do and how to educate our children, without a doubt it is not an easy task, many questions come to our head and it is normal that along the way we make mistakes thinking about doing them a good, and we should not feel bad about that, all parents even once have been wrong.
Responsibilities at home, work obligations, busy schedules and daily tasks complicate keeping calm with children, when we see that the child is doing something bad, we let all the accumulated stress flow during the day and that is the moment where We fail to correct them, or on the contrary, there is the type of parents who consent and do not correct their children so that, according to them, they feel loved, but this is not the best way to educate them either.
How can we define the discipline of children?
It is to apply with prudence and the appropriate character the limits and the necessary corrections according to an inappropriate behavior of the child.
When to start disciplining them?
When a child exhibits inappropriate and disrespectful behavior such as insulting, hitting, spitting at people, yelling, etc. They are symptoms of a child who wants to attract the attention of his parents and should receive it as soon as possible, since the child, feeling ignored, will go for more and his behavior will get worse. Discipline can begin after 2 years of age.
When thinking about discipline we immediately familiarize this term with a "No" determinant or punishment, but we must be very careful and not overstep the limits with this, as it may deviate from the true meaning of what "no" or punishment means when it is used abusively, it is better to use it when there is a danger to the child.
How to discipline the children?
1- Parents must have security when setting limits or applying correction, they must be certain that the child should not do that and children will perceive it, facilitating a positive reaction on their part.
2-Complement the correction with non-verbal gestures such as the serious face, a fixed gaze, the firmness, the tone and the seriousness of the voice; These are key to establishing the limits since they indicate to the child that the parents are the ones who have the authority. The child must differentiate what is right and what is wrong, what is allowed and what is not allowed, there must be firmness in the parents to be able to educate their children and always show respect so that everything goes well.
3-Correct at the right time, that is immediately after the evil you have done, so that the child understands that the correction is due to the bad that has just done. But if it was done in front of people, friends or relatives, it is prudent to wait so that the child is not ashamed.
4- not emit offensive words or phrases while correcting or orienting such as you are a fool, annoying child, you do not serve at all, this will only cause a low self-esteem and the child will grow insecure.
5- You should not instill fear. Although perhaps with this you get obedience, the child will grow timid, repressed, distrustful and fearful. It is better to correct it positively so that it reflects and does not return to behave that way.
6- Avoid shouting and insults, because when you are a child you are more sensitive and may feel that you have stopped loving them, affecting their self-esteem and confidence in their parents.
7-It is important to explain to the child that each bad behavior has consequences and that it can harm other people
8-You must be consistent in correcting, that is, what you said was wrong one day, you can not tell it is okay another day, this creates confusion in the child and will be disoriented.
9- Despite the discipline and scolding, always let him know that you love him.
10- Educate their behavior by setting the example as parents and avoid comparing the behavior of the child with that of others. Parents should be the role model of their children.
Failure to discipline and educate children
1- Screams and violence
2- Minimize the faults of your children and see it as something that does not matter.
3- Consent them in everything, overprotect them and allow them to do everything to you.
4- Not recognizing the virtues of the child
5- Respect their personality by comparing them to others and wanting children to be what their parents could not be.
6- Lack of communication
As parents it is in our hands to educate our children, a primary point in this matter is that in order to correct others we must set an example ourselves first. To discipline children is to love them, in this way they will be good people who live fully and set an example to others.
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