PREAMBLE
These few days where I have opportunity to share God's word among brethren, I have noticed of recent that God has most time deny me of utterance on what I should say till when the situation calls for. Hey, do not be confused. What I am labouring to explain is that most revelation and rhema I get is not pre-planed. Hence, I get most of the motivational tips and sermons while teaching, motivating or even on the pulpit preaching.
So far, God has been using my lips to say a word that would be needed at that particular time for the particular occasion that if I should quantify it, then I would not be mincing words by saying that 90% of what I say has been unplanned out of the 100% of what I had written and had meant to say or do.
Enough of this, what I'm trying to say is that I got inspired this morning when I was chatting with a friend, trying to make her see reasons to FORGIVE and MAKE PEACE with her roommate. I took time to goggle scriptures about forgiveness last night and I was virtually memorizing it all through the night so as to bombard her today.
However, when the conversation began, I shared one of the Scriptures I memorized. The Bible says in
Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother."
Now, take note of these few points. First, I would say that forgiveness starts with you. That's when you notice that someone (your brother) has sinned against you, the process of forgiving kick starts. Hence, forgiveness does not necessary mean that someone who offends you and came to beg for forgiveness. It actually entails that you recognize or noticed that the person offended/sinned.
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Secondly, you need to take up a step of humility by going to the person and tell him/her his fault. Thus, it at such time that you make the person know what he did which got you upset. Funny enough, there are times that such people did the thing that got you upset without knowing that such thing made you pissed off.
Thirdly, tell him his fault in a polite way because you may lose him if you do not manage this third step very well. Hence, you may even regret going there, mind you the person may not admit his/her fault which would thus take us to the forth step.
I promise to continue from there in the next series.
Stay tuned.
Prayer
Father please help me to have a forgiving spirit in Jesus name, amen.