Masturbation is a subject of great confusion and conflict among adolescence and youths. Is masturbation right or wrong?
You will find out on this article.
Masturbation is one of the common struggles of adolescence. It is often joked about, whispered about and worried about among teenegers. Masturbation is also practiced to, what many might consider, a surprising degree especially among teenagers.
Masturbation is the self-stimulation of one's genital to the point of orgasm.There are a lot of rumours and old wives tales sorrounding masturbation. Some teens believe among themselves that the effect of masturbation include insanity and blindness. Some insist that it causes one's face to break out and one's hair to fall out. Others claim that it is related to mental illness, tuberculosis and epilepsy. All the claims are of course, FALSE. I think most of these tales started by well meaning people attempting to frighten others especially the teenagers, from the horrible effect of masturbation.
The real effects of masturbation are less dramatic though, but just as damaging. This is because, masturbation places you in a dangerous and opportune position to derail from God and walk the path of immortality and destruction.
Effect of masturbation.
Guilt: Masturbation is anything that is not of God that naturally brings feelings of guilt and depression. Most adolescents who masturbate agree that there is a wrong feeling of guilt and anxiety that accompany masturbation.
Low self-esteem: Masturbation can exert enormous control over a person. For the teenager who is still struggling to form his/her identity, masturbation can cause his self-esteem to talter and even crumble. Teenagers who engaged in masturbation sometimes hate, not only their actions, but themselves also. They feel powerless to control their urge.
Self- centeredness: Control is the ability to say no to pleasing yourself in order to please another. Masturbation pleases only one person-you.
Objectification of others: Since masturbation often involves images and fantasies, it can result in the transformation of people into an object that is used to achieve orgasm. This can lead to a destructive and dangerous mental process which causes increasingly perverse fantasies, desires and possible aggression against the opposite sex.
Obsession: Some young people are so tangled up in masturbation problems that they hardly can think about anything else but sex all day long. This constant masturbation saps their energies and takes their mind away from their studies making them to think about sex wherever they go and with everyone they see even when sex is not necessary. Obsessive behaviour built around masturbation and sexual fantasies is destructive psychologically because it nudges an individual further and further from reality because truth itself is a stranger to him or her.
Ways to quit masturbation
Get your mind occupied: Make sure your mind is occupied with important things. Do not get too worried about masturbation. Have important things to do at all times.
Control your fantasies: Masturbation is often associated with a particular fantasies that appeal to you. To stop masturbation habit, there is need for you to change your sexual thoughts. Do not feed your mind with images and ideas that strengthen these fantasies, rather choose to think of things that are noble and decent.
Shun Pornography: As an adolescent, all your sexuality are "ready and waiting to go" To place yourself in stimulating circumstances is like fire and gasoline. So keeping yourself away from places, articles, pictures and circumstances that get those juices flowing could be all you need to curb your masturbation problem.
Get a life: Masturbation can be associated with lack of ambition and satisfaction with one's life and situation. You need to take control of your life. Get to know yourself and your talent and do something positive to step on the ladder of life.
References:
Philosophy of sex: Contemporary Readings by Alan Soble and Nicholas A. Power.