Yesterday I stumbled upon a video and few posts in my friends' social medias which are quite annoying to me.
Perhaps, some of you would feel the same with me after you watch the videos I share below this article.
These posts are showing the recent make up trend in Indonesia which (IMHO) makes woman's beauty just looks so fake.
You can't even recognise the real person anymore.
Occasionally I'd love dressing up to be pretty and putting on make up as well.
However, I think make up should be used to enhance woman's natural beauty, to highlight the best feature and perhaps covering some tiredness sign or blemishes, but not to completely change the face and make us look like wearing a mask, and being like completely different person.
The foundation used in that video is faaaar too lighter than the real skin colour and so thickly applied.
If it's only about a mode trend, then it might not be so bad, as every single trend will be replaced by the next one anyway.
However, this is not only a short term trend in Indonesia.
The tendency of make up style to make the skin colour as fair as possible has been spread since I was teenager.
It was not that widely talked about because there was no internet and social medias.
The beauty concept of most Indonesians are reflecting the inferiority feeling grown in our society as a rest effect of 350 years colonialisation.
Perhaps you'd like to know the typical comments I heard from most Indonesian fellows living in Indonesia after seeing the picture of my baby, especially the one which shows her tan skin colour more vividly.
Yes, the first comment was normally like this:
"Eh, why doesn't she look like a half caucasian at all, she's rather dark?"
It also reminds me to a typical comment of old acquaintances, who just heard that I'm now married to an Eurepean. This kind of comment:
"So you're now married to a Caucasian? How nice, this way your offspring would get a quality upgrade, eh?"
Well, I know that it's kind of jokes, but still it is rather unpleasant in my ear.
Ok... scientifically, that statement does make sense, because indeed the gene mixture in children from binational couple might possibly create a more advantageous combination.
However...why do people tend to always presume that one has a prospective of having an "enhancement/upgrade of quality" by marrying a caucasian?
Do they want to say that their own gene quality is bad or what?
Why do they think so low about their own self?
My response to such comments was normally like this:
"Ah yes, you're right. My hubby has deliberately choosen me so that he'd get a quality upgrade for his offspring.
Look, my baby is super gorgeous, isn't she? He wouldn't have a baby with such a beautiful healthy tan skin if he hadn't married an Asian like me."
I can even save the cost for sun protection cream. _
I'm always annoyed by such remark about skin colour because not every girl has a strong personality and could withstand any negative jokes about their appearance. I have 2 nieces, one has a dark skin and one as a fair skin.
The later has since childhood always been protecting the former with her sarcastic reply too whenever they were playing together and hearing people comparing them.
However the former one simply grew up being timid and has not enough self confidence, although our family member always treat them the same, and convincing her that she's not less pretty than other girl.
The fact that the entertainment industry recently only recruit mixed blood celebrities whose white skin and even ignoring the fact that sometimes it they just doesn't suit with the plot of the film.
Those make the public belief that white skin is the prettiest and dark skin is ugly getting even stronger and stronger.
Talking about make up again... my husband was freaking out by the idea of being a groom in indonesian traditional party.
Not only because he's a lone wolf... but because he doesn't want to wear such a thick make up in a hot climate like Indonesia, that is a real torture. :-D
And it would cost a fortune too, so we finally skipped that.
In our wedding in Germany we didn't hold a party nor wore an exceptional wedding attire and make up either.
However I still wore a traditional Indonesian dress: "kebaya" and "batik" skirt.
I also did my own make up. My husband didn't even wear a suit. My family told me that our neighbours in Indonesia confused the groom whenever they saw our family wedding pictures, because my brother in law has dressed him self more refined than the groom LOL.
Here I would post one of our wedding picture from nearly 10 years ago, now I have more wrinkle and have few more kilograms hahahah.
Just compare my look in this picture with the picture of the bride on the link below and also with
the YouTube videos I share to you here, then you'll understand why I'm ranting so much today. _
A link to a picture of an Indonesian bride:
http://www.socimage.com/media/976055328404034142_989897451
Video:
Video:
Rough translation in Indonesian:
Kemarin saya nemu postingan dan video di sosmed beberapa temen saya yang terasa cukup mengusik. Kenapa?
Karena ini ngga sekedar soal trend make up ataupun mode saja, melainkan karena itu jadi potret tendensi orang indonesia yang selalu merasa inferior orang indonesia terhadap bule yang nggak ilang-ilang juga meskipun udah merdeka lebih dari 70 tahun.
Kecenderungan merasa dirinya sendiri jelek hanya karena kulitnya ngga cukup terang.
Kecenderungan untuk mendiskriminasi sesama bangsa sendiri, bikin saya super gemas.
Suka BT tiap kali orang ngomong gini: "Ah, kamu telat kawin sengaja nyari bule, buat perbaikan keturunan pasti yaaa?"
Ya, saya tahu itu cuma bercanda...tapi tetep aja... kenapa sih candaan pun condongnya selalu yang negatif? Tidak adakah gaya candaan yang agak bermutu sedikit gitu?
Apakah dengan ngomong gitu, kita mau bilang bahwa gen kita orang Indonesia itu jelek begitu kah?
Diri sendiri kok dijelek-jelekin kualitasnya...sih.
Kenapa kok nggak dibalik aja? Saya suka iseng jawabnya kaya gini nih:
"Ya, emang bener tuh. Suamiku sengaja nyari bini kayak gue demi memperbaiki keturunan dia gitu. Tuh, liat kan hasilnya...anak gue cakep toh. Disini yang kaya begini jadi favorit lho."
Bayangin... temen Indonesia yang tinggal di Indonesia dan liat foto anak gue waktu di Malaga umumnya nyeletuk:
"Jauh2 nyari jodoh ke ngEropah anaknya "ndeles" juga sih, ngga keliatan indo-nya."
Paling jijay itu kalau denger orang Indonesia bilang yang disukai bule itu cewek muka babu.
Terlepas dari fakta bahwa banyak bule yang kawin juga sama cewek Indonesia yang kulitnya terang,
termasuk yang dapat cewek keturunan China Indonesia, saya jadi pengen tanya: "Seperti apa sih yang namanya muka babu itu? Emang ada UU yang mengatakan bahwa yang kulit gelap itu selalu pantasnya cuma boleh jadi babu?
Dan kok ya sombong amat merendahkan profesi babu. Kalau pas lebaran ditinggal seminggu sama pembantunya aja udah pada ribut gitu lho... Dan bukannya banyak yang tanpa adanya para asisten RT itu jadi pada ngga bisa kerja, anak-anaknya terlantar? Kok ya pada sombong sekali gitu lho...
Kaya gini jadi bikin saya mikir... apakah laki-laki indonesia kalau nyari bini emang cuma ngeliat warna kulit dan penampilan fisik doang?
Kalau iya... lah ya pantes aja banyak wanita berkualitas yang jauh lebih milih nikah sama bule...
karena mungkin memang lebih banyak bule yang ngga sepicik itu kalau nyari jodoh. :-D
Coba deh liatin video di YouTube diatas tuh... dempul nya berapa senti itu tuh, cuma biar tampak putih kinclong...
muka sama leher dan tangan jadi nggak sinkron LOL.
Saya juga kadang-kadang suka dandan kok... Cuma menurut saya, make up itu seharusnya dipakai untuk ngasih "highlight" pada kelebihan diwajah seorang wanita dan cuma sekedar nutupi flek, jerawat atau warna kulit yang tidak merata karena eksposure sinar matahari, dan bukannya membuat kita jadi berubah total sampai wajah aslipun sulit untuk dikenali lagi, kayak pakai topeng.
"Fake" banget gitu lho.
Tapi itulah trend di Indonesia...yang bikin saya super gemes hehe.
Disini saya juga upload foto nikah saya yang super sederhana, hasil dandan sendiri... bandingkan deh dengan foto dan video yang saya kasih link nya itu. Jauh banget kan hehehehehe.
Suami saya mah lebih suka saya nggak dandan malahan. Kalau saya mau pergi dan mau pamitan, begitu dia liat aku pake lipstik aja ngga mau lagi kasih cium lho... katanya dia ngga mau menelan "chemical" wkwkkwkwk.
Jadi sejak tinggal di ngEropah, saya malah jadi ngirit budget make up. :-D
Waktu mudik pertama kali ke Indonesia dulu dan mau kopdar dengan teman-teman yang di Indonesia di salah satu Mal besar di Jakarta dan melihat para pengunjung Mal yang lalu lalang saya jadi mikir gini:
"Duh...jangan-jangan saya nanti paling lusuh nih... jadi kayak "babu" beneran deh wkwkkwk."
Yang bikin BT lagi... Pelayan toko dan SPG yang jualan itu aja banyak yang mandang sebelah mata dan jadi judes lho ketika ngelayanin saya yang tampilannya nggak kayak sosialita, cuma pake sandal jepit dan baju casual gitu deh.
Menyedihkan ketika manusia begitu ekstrem dinilai cuma dari tampilan fisik doang.
Ok...sekian dulu deh omelan saya hari ini...
Sampai jumpa lain kali yaaa.... mmuach.