Good, bad, pleasant and not very, all this is a thing of the past, now there is only one criterion, interest, when you see inside a person what you can deploy, and it will not be someone else's, beautifully packed thoughts, not a huge Ego, framed, not shrill cry of his loneliness, supported by illusory props of someone else's support.
Interest flares up often, it is conducted on a bright (demonstrative), then you just see that it is a heap of glass, intricately folded, and given out for a handful of real living fireflies, or on the contrary, a sharp sauce that burns at first, but then it is clear that it gives the right taste , complements, turns you the other way.
The most terrible thing is to remain rigid, with a sluggish neck of one's own self-esteem, they become simply uninteresting, they are frozen in the concrete of adoration, narcissism, they strengthen the walls, instead of expanding the boundaries. They always need support, new portions of the solution, they are nice on their pedestal, which is getting higher, their methods of extracting such a necessary cement are becoming trivial, but it happens when building a monument to their own ego.
When you grow to the understanding that your fence does not protect, but restricts, then there is the courage to hear people behind this fence, you no longer need concrete foundations, you become more free, you have a choice. There is no choice behind the fence.