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My seven-year-old daughter is happy with any other child, with a lot of care and questioning. She is excited about the world around her and her life. But often she asks a question why 'I (Mom) are not my Papa? 

I decided to be single and I always told her the truth that 'I am not married and that's why your father is not. But I think he was not fully satisfied with this answer.

I have adopted a daughter and came to this house and this child's heart remained uncomfortable that there is a mother but there is no father.

When she was five years old she said: Come, you told me that when a boy and a girl grow up they get married and they have children. My mother must have married someone. And when I do not know my mother's mother, I do not even know the father who created it. But do not say that my father is not. 

I stopped. I came to know how it would feel on the answer to his question. It was easy to argue. A five-year-old girl found her answer.

He made my explanation meaningless. In the form of a mother and a man, she forced me to think about what kind of feeling I am feeling from her.

She would say get married.

I explained: 'It's not that I do not want to get married, I can marry tomorrow, but only when I get someone who can understand me and you. Even when he grows up and asks me, then my answer will be.

Being single is not a difficult task. I am enjoying my mother's life with my daughter.

I do not hate men. I respect them very much and my daughter is also learning this to me. The answer is not easy, why did not I get married and even after I was single, why did I decide to adopt a child?

About 20 years ago when my marriage was old, most of the most renowned 'educated' youth used to pay attention to how you look like it. Most people in my community do business and therefore boys did not get more educated.

I wanted to be someone who is well-educated and strong of moral values

and likes my inner.

This search made me light. I grew up in a conservative rural family of Maharashtra. Like many other girls in India I did not have any existence in my house, and the family did not care about me.

My father gave me high education that was unusual at that time. I got a good job and I was a trusted girl. As the life progressed, I realized that I want to live independently on my own, perhaps not by anyone's will.

Marriage would have been a big decision in the life of any person and it should be my own decision only. Why should someone else decide my life?

I started to feel that in reality I do not want a man or husband as a spouse in my life and that's why I was single.

My parents accepted my decision.

There is probably no change in my life if I do not start working for orphan children under the corporate social responsibility program of my company.

I was glad to teach, play with, and spend time. I would like to do all this. But what I can do, it had a limit and I was also unbearable to stay away from it. Then I decided to adopt a baby. But this decision has created many questions before me.

How will this child connect with my family? Will I be a good single mother? Will I be able to take care of my child while taking care of her child? 

I have been asking myself for such questions for two years. And when I decided to adopt a girl, I was still uncertain.

I talked to my friends, took a long breath and confiscated the problems that used to disturb me. Was this all the responsibility to become a single mother? I came to know how important it is for my friends and family to support.

When my six-month-old daughter came home, she was not less than a festival for me. On that day there were about 50 people to attend.

All my worries disappear when she came home. She became the favorite beloved of the house and I am a single-born single mother.

At the same time I decided to stay separate from my parents' house alone. Due to this, our relations become stronger. I have never felt that I am not the 'real' mother.

Despite her curiosity in her mind, my daughter loves me very much and she often says that I'm the best mother in the world.

When she sees me working, she says, 'You are my father now!' It's a precious thing for me. The baby's life is not easy, and both of us are learning to respond to many unusual questions that sometimes come in front of us and our society asks us.

Many people want to know about my daughter's past. Why does anyone ask this question? And should she ask this question or not?

Despite all these complications, our lives are very easy, filled with joy and love. They have also encouraged my sister and she has also adopted a daughter.

My daughter has become a very important part of my life. Now I advise parents and children to adopt.

My daughter does not like going to school, so I have started teaching her at home. I want to help her make my decision myself. I did not get this facility in my childhood days that is very important for me.

Whenever she wants to go to school I will take her to school. It is its own identity that will make it talented as I am myself.

I am not alone but I want to be alone. But when I am with my daughter I am the most happy.

(This is the true story of Jayita Bugnyar of the Indian state of India)