Many young people today are absorbed in getting dragged into promiscuity. Dating seems to be a culture. Dating becomes a nuance for them to pour love to the lover. The desire to meet always haunts them, the teenagers who are in love. Unfortunately, the event of mingling with two different kinds of human children (not muhrim) is more favored than reading motivational books or other positive activities. More unfortunate again, the spectacle of soap operas on television further aggravate this situation.
It is undeniable that, in the present, there is a deep concern behind the phenomenon. By "in the name of love", many young people forget the limits outlined by religion. Through the event called dating, there was an intensive interaction of feelings of mutual love, frequent meetings, and so on which led to the occurrence of various physical contacts in a lonely opportunity together. Not infrequently they get into the abyss of adultery, because they can not control themselves. Finally, the relationship that was initially special to them, became the cause of the great sins and the future destruction of the perpetrators. Again, before they did it "in the name of love".
There is a true story of a woman who was still sitting in elementary school. She is a sweet girl in the general judgment. Although a little sassy, he liked many friends. Since elementary he has telibat affair with my sister class is also still my neighbor. Although it may love monkeys, but the story continues until high school. Unfortunately, when I was in high school, the girl turned out to have two bodies so inevitably had to marry very young. Soon, his son came out from his womb so he could say ABG (Anak Baru Gede) suddenly took out a child who could be "big". After all that happened, lost the good times the girl in the process of becoming an adult human. She must be a mother figure when her soul is still transitioning, while other girls are enjoying the freedom of self-identity. He now looks old with a fat body like the moms born in the 70s. Her beauty was only a blink of an eye after the disaster could not be avoided. He has lost his youth ... Then, who is wrong?
Once naive, the word of love that should be guarded his chastity, becomes tainted. Then, is it true love? Or is it just camouflaged lust? So, when a couple of young people are engrossed in tandem, are they really love or their "talking" lusts? Are their emotions or their dominant common sense?
If there is a girl who says to her lover, "I give you everything I own for you as proof of my love for you ..." He considers it as a sacrifice for love. But is it a sacrifice for love? Or is it for lust? What is the difference between love and lust?
There is a young man asking his girlfriend, "If you really love me, what is the proof?" Or on another occasion, "As proof of love, would you kiss me, hug ... (and so on)." Or in other cases, if you ask this is the girl, and when the young man rejects it, it is said to be a coward. Should it be so proving love?
Is it so easy to call it "love" for a sinful act? Is it true love, or is it called lust? Well, as genius beings who are endowed with perfect mind, we as human beings must know the difference between the two, between lust and love. And as an educated young generation, it is fitting that we do not confuse the two things to legalize our passion (read: lust).
Now is the era of information that is all sophisticated, not the era of cavemen hundreds of centuries ago. Humans are more intelligent and have high civilization. So, have to know what is the real meaning of love, and do not tarnish the meaning of love with impingement of desire lust in the name of love.
So concerned about the promiscuity of young people in this era, who legalize the act of sin as a natural habit. It is not without evidence. There are women who go straight and he wants to repent. There are also men who tell with pride without any intention of improving themselves at all. There are also stories from friends who are often used to confide his friends. In short, we must massage the chest to know this gray reality. They are in our midst. It happens in our midst.
Not to mention the many cases of intimate association of young people outside marriage that horrendous, recorded like a documentary, but eventually the disgrace was scattered. And for the perpetrator, there must be an immeasurable embarrassment to them. Also for his family, it all becomes a shameful embarrassment, destroys the dignity of the family, and destroys all pride. Ironically, most of the perpetrators are lovers who are still students or students. More ironically, they do it on behalf of LOVE!
The question is: will all that be left alone? Or let it be news material only?
The name of love is not for something nista. Love is the gift of the Power that we must guard its holiness. Different love and lust? If we love our lovers, then with that love we take care of it, not tarnish it. Love is always holy and noble when it is owned by a "true lover". Many love stories are legend. The beautiful Tajmahal in India is created out of love. Rabiah Al Adawiyah became a female Sufi legend because of her love for the Creator.
The pair of Rama-Shinta legends, Romeo-Juliet, Kais-Laila, became an all-time story for their love. There is no legendary story about the uncontrollable lust in the relationship of two other types of people without marriage bonds. It is merely a scandal, adultery, adultery, and other names of an immoral kind.
So, do not say 'love' if we can not interpret it with real meaning. Do not equate love with lust just because we lack self-control. Do not scapegoat love as a means of impingement of lust. And more importantly, free association will not happen if our youth can interpret the true love and uphold the teachings of religion with istiqomah (consistent) until the time gate open wedding.
