Life has a way of frustrating us. Things have their ways of getting to us. We respond to things differently and take things to heart differently.
When situations threaten us and try to take away our peace, we should learn to stay strong.
When people try to tell you they understand, they really cannot understand. They can only sympathize but never understand what you are going through except they have been there before or they are going through the same. Even at that, the varying degree at which we go through things differs.
Things are not as bad as they look. Situations are not as dire as they feel. Keep pushing, it won’t always rain, there will still come your sunshine. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it is not from an on-rushing train.
Have you seen how the handler of a hammer is so consistent with hitting the nail on the head till the wood gives way? Situations won’t just give way on their own if all you do is fold your arms and cry about it.
When there is a mountain on your path, you don’t just sit down at its foot and cry, you need to stand up and take the step towards climbing it. One step you take is one less step you need to take.
When we face some situations, we feel there is no obvious progress but the situation gets weaker and weakened every time we tackle it.
Stay strong. I know it is an easy word to use, but then, would you rather have it any other way? Situations try to appear more than they really are, just like we discussed in an earlier post about fear. When situations happen, we need to respond rather than react to it. When you respond, you try to have it under control. When you react, the situation controls you and when the situation has you under control, you tend to mess it up even the more, and this is where it gets more frustrating.
Sit down and analyse when situations happen. Let your first thought of action and thought be “How do I get out of this?”, rather than panic under the weight of the situation.
You have been hurt and burned? Stay strong. You lost a loved one? Stay strong. You lost a job? Stay strong. A friend betrayed you? Stay strong. Someone walked out of your life? Stay strong. Your expectations got dashed? Stay strong. You have been trying with no head way? Stay strong. You lost money in business? Stay strong. You lost something precious to you? Stay strong.
Situations have a way of forcing us to be creative and to think. Have you ever noticed the best of ideas come after you have failed at something? Situations happen not always to break us, but sometimes to force us out of our comfort zone to restrategize and to think.
I hope to be able to share my experiences with you all (losing parents and my only sister) one day, so we can both learn, because I do learn a lot from most of your comments and I am really enjoying it. We all have a voice, we should all use it.
...to be continued...
Thank you for your time.
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