What do you think about when you hear someone use the word “style”?
Whenever the term “style” is used, it most commonly refers to one’s fashion or outer appearance. But I want to remind you that style is much more than your shoulder length haircut, fashionable coat, or your Ferragamo dress shoes.
Style = Expression
It’s the total combination of the way you dress, talk, move your body, or do anything for that matter. Simply put, it’s how we express our inner being outwardly. This includes all of our thoughts, emotions, interests, and values. Everything on the outside is merely a reflection of what’s on the inside.
A lot of the people think that what I do is just help people upgrade their outer appearance. This is what they think of when they hear “style coach” or “image consultant,” and will come to me for a personal shopping session – wanting mainly to focus on fashion.
Although, I like to think of myself as a “self-expression coach,” because I firmly believe that fashion is just one part of your style.
Most of us aren’t aware of what we’re communicating most of the time – and it’s way beyond our reach to keep track of everything that we’re presenting.
When we do find out through an outside source (usually to our disgust), whether through a close friend or relative, it seems far from the ideal vision that we have of ourselves. This is where a coach can come in and pinpoint all the factors that are contributing to what we don’t want, and how we can fix it.
For example, meet John Smith. He may seem like a nice guy who everyone loves, but when it comes to dating women, he says he just can’t seem to keep a very attractive girl interested in him. What’s causing this? It could be a factor of many things he’s unaware of. The tone of his voice which is seeking validation, the fashion faux pas he’s making through his outfit combination, or some kind of insecurity in him that reveals itself through his mannerisms.
We all have things about ourselves we’d like to change just like John here. Once you identify your unattractive flaws or mannerisms, you’ll have the power to change it.
Some people think that because I’m a style coach I must be an unstoppable force of charisma who looks impeccable all the time (ha).But sometimes I’m at home unshaven and wearing clothes that are more about comfort than fashion. I’m just a guy obsessed with the subject of style, and how we can improve every aspect of ourselves to be more effective in our interpersonal relationships. I love learning and analyzing this stuff, and while obsessively doing so I try to share what I learn because I love helping people more than anything else.
I firmly believe that every man has the capability to be charismatic – being the type of guy that everyone loves and is drawn towards.
So what parts make up your complete “style?”
- Your Reputation/Branding
- Clothing/Fashion sense
- Your Grooming
- Non-verbal
- Your Lifestyle and Values