Are you positive or negative?
Are you enthusiastic or melancholy?
We all are at different times in our lives, but to be one or the other all the time is not human!
It's important to wear a mask, a poker face around people that you're not close to, but it's ok to
be upset sometimes, even to cry in public…!
Society says that we must be a certain way all the time, your self image whether it is upbeat, quiet or serious can be hard to shake. People like to put people in a box, and expect people to behave the same way every day.
You can control your state by thinking positively, associating with positive people, exercising, meditating, or by engaging in addictive behaviours that are some peoples coping mechanisms.
Those that hate their jobs can be found in any club every weekend drinking themselves slowly to death, the odd wild night is ok.
But every weekend…?
If you're happy with your life most of the time and you're fit and healthy then you won't need to escape in unhealthy ways regularly to feel good.
Meditation brings up the things that need your attention so that you can fix them, some people say they can't meditate anymore because they are so unhappy and silence is too disturbing for them so they run and do, and do, and do, and do anything just to keep busy, just so they don't have to think.
To be silent is to be vulnerable, to be vulnerable you have to accept the bad feelings as well as the good feelings, no one can be naturally happy all the time, consistently.
If they were they would probably complain of boredom, would you rather be bored and happy or entertained and stressed?
If you read the whole thing answer the question, I'd love to know!
In the beginning when you first meet someone you think that they're amazing, they're really lovely and you love everything about them.
Then you get to know them a bit and slowly but surely as their true colours show through and their initial best impressions wear thin you see cracks, then you run or you help them with their cracks.
You realise that no one is perfect, and the ones that you think are perfect are not letting you get close enough to see their true personality.
If someone annoys you don't get rid of them, educate them, help them to become a better person, so that way next time they meet someone whether it be a friend or a partner they will be a better person and get a better response from the next person.
If you don't do this you and the people you associate with won't grow and have real friends or relationships, it will all be plastic and superficial.
Be real, allow other people that you have in your life to have cracks.
The cracks let the light shine through