I met my husband 15 years ago at a place called Graceland, on the night of my friend’s Grade 12 farewell. I was on the way to phone my mother to pick me up after all the Grade twelve’s showed off their dresses and their fancy cars. All of were sitting together when an old friend came to greet me. He then introduced me to his friend. They asked me what I was doing at the casino and I told them I am here with a friend, that came for the Grade 12 dance, but I am on my way home, only need to phone my mom to pic me up, so they said no worries we will take you home.
I did not have a cell phone at the time so I needed to phone from the pay phone. I decided to take the ride home with them. As we stopped the car in front of our house, they asked me if they could enjoy a cup of coffee with me, and I replied yes. I made the coffee and we sat at the kitchen table talking and catching up, we were laughing so loud that we woke my mother. She was not very impressed with us. The two of them only left our house the next morning when the sun was up. I was still living with my parents at the time.
So, I liked him and we started to see each other more often. We went out to dance and had lots of barbecues with new friends we made.
After 3 months he decided to ask me out, we went to dance that night, had lots of fun. As we were walking to the car he asked me to be his girlfriend and I replied yes.
Now it is time to meet the in laws. He was so relaxed telling me to stop stressing; I know my family will love you. He was right about this father and his stepbrother but for his mother and sister it was another story. I was so uncomfortable, and could tell from their faces that they don’t like me very much. His mother was asking so many questions, seemed to me she wanted to do a background check to see if I would be good enough for her son.
Now, I had this bad habit of staring at someone or something not even focusing or thinking about it, just day dreaming. This was BAD I know. I did it not even realize that I was doing it.
One morning I woke up to the sound of a message that was sent to me by his sister, the message stated that if you look at my boyfriend one more time I am going to tell my brother about it. I did not know what this was all about and decided there and then I have nothing to hide and I phoned her brother telling him about this. He said he would pick me up after work so we can sort this out.
As we arrived at his house, his mother were sitting on the couch when his sister ran out the door to tell him I have eyes for her boyfriend, now her boyfriend was like a brother to me because it was her bother’s best friend and we knew each other long before they even started to date. He was only standing there with no words. And then the question came. Do you have feelings for my friend? and I said no, while everyone was looking at me. She said tell my bother you like my boyfriend and I said no I will not, because it is not true and I don’t want him, she got so angry and started to yell at me, she even claimed that I touched him.
I was really hurt, and started to cry because I knew this was a lie and I don’t think I fit into this family, at this time his friend still not saying a word. I decided to yell back at her, You are lying!!, and I will not stand for this nonsense. His mother jumped in and told me I have no right to talk to her in that manner and if you mess with my daughter, you are messing with me, and you will be sorry.
This was the plan to break us up wasn’t it? It was so clear. It was right in front of me.
I told his sister you know what, you always want all the attention, so take your brother and your boyfriend cause I don’t want either of them. And then I left his house. I did not great anyone.
The next morning her brother came crawling back we sorted out the mess and today 15 years later we are still laughing about it…… And just for the record me and my mother in law are very close friend.
So the model of the story is,
“BE CAREFUL WHO YOU STARE TOO”
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