I am more likely a friend to my only child and even a friend of his friends too. This is how I created a close personal relationship to him. I treat him as individual that has a mind of his own. I talk to him about my thoughts, hopes, ideas, and feelings that made him develop his outlook in life.
When I am not in good mood I make him feel that I am human and it is normal to feel this way but of course I rightaway give explaination why things came out to happen.
I think it is a good way... Why? Because I realized he is very open to me since then. He is not like shilly-shally to disclose of what he secretly feel, he even shared to me about private matter.
I can say that I am his confidant..
Me and my kid are friends because we share a sense of mutual loyalty, trust and respect which is really good.
But I suppose it depends on your personal characteristics and your cultural beliefs. Because not all kids adapt well to the parents as authoritative-friend model.
As far as I'm concerned. For me, it's effective and it's worth it. I manage to have authority figures.
Being a friend doesn't mean you are in control by your child. No! First and foremost you are a mother and that would instill on your child's mind.
Like me, I never grew up as kids really.
So as much as I could I want him to enjoy his childhood.
I don't want to deprive him because once it was taken there is no way to get it back.
Godly children bring much joy to the parents. The older you get and the more you mature, the more you realize that every other 'thing' we strive after in this life is fleeting and will pass away. It is only our children that are lasting gifts that we will keep forever.
So please always spend quality time with your children. Always make them feel happy, loved, and cared for.
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