The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." — Helen Keller
I would like to write about what makes a successful marriage, which is luckily, I want to share the answer. One thing I know is that a working marriage is not into argument, which is a not a good sign.
Based on facts and figures almost one half of married couple stay together because they have children, financial security or it is out fear to be alone. While other married relationships last because of pure and consistent happiness, some reasons are because of perfect combination of being together needless to say about any types of love. Other marriages is not about happiness or unhappiness, most of it is about being comfortable with each other based on negotiation and accommodation. Other married couple will say that there relationship lasted because they feel happy with each other, that means in equal measure of happiness. Indeed, much of us who entered married life are two different people but then we are all different in many ways. Now, if we look into this we can interpret where the problem lies. Imagine two different people living together for years, that is simply challenging!
My husband and I possess a huge degree of individuality, being said I like it. Knowing our individuality also have advantages and disadvantages. That means we tend to argue on some/most of things, this is our share of fireworks living together. But it's one aspect that I see normal in a working relationship. Imagine no arguments in a relationship that could be a time bomb waiting to explode, and it's going to be like an atomic bomb.
Most marriages that did not last is not a failure relationship because it succeeded for a fair while. The challenge is how to make marriages last a life time. Yes, love should be the anchor but it's just the start of everything. For marriages to work out and last, we need to forge the three keys to marriage, that is hard to form.
One of the key elements is communication, easier said than done. We tend to feel comfortable of each others presence that we tend to forget to find time to talk and communicate because of an apprehension that our partner know what we want to say. But, reality check, we need to communicate to relay our thoughts, feelings, emotions etc. In a married life we need to practice open communication 24/7 meaning as often as possible, everyday, every hour, minutes and seconds. It should be an SOP for all married couple.
Another key factor is respect. Respect begets respect. Even married couples must learn that respect surpasses love. Love is only passing but respect endures. We need to make sure that out of respect we give value and importance with our partners. Respect serve as a link, a passage for love to flow in a married relationship.
Finally, trust. Trust is hard to earn but easy to broke. Once broken, rebuilding trust and putting back the pieces the way it was is superbly difficult. From big trust issues like infidelity to minor issues like failure to fulfill promises, bad intentions and frustrated hopes.
Start trusting, trust, trust and trust a million times. Yes, there is no guarantee that you won't be let down, but if any case you are let down learn to trust again, again and again! Never give up in trusting until you can make the relationship stand tall. Yes, it's easy to forgive but hard to forget, practice the power of forgetting, forget the things that will ruin your relationship. Stop perceiving the hurts and mistreatment in the relationship. It will only drag you down.
Let us remember that marriage is a continuous process, it has life, it is life, it's like a living organism, it needs the essentials, the nutrients for living and surviving. Marriage anchored on love and nourished with communication, respect and trust is fundamentally lasting!
To top it all spend the best of life through bonding and celebrating precious moments!
Precious moment of dining and eating, in this case it's unlimited food for everyone!
Captured this real reactions of kiddos, happy time and fun time for everyone!
Take a deep breath and inhale all the positive vibes while exhale all the stress and pressure to achieve beauty that glows!
Smiles all the way for a great married life
steem friends! My sister and her husband in having the smile of a life time!
Meet my sisters who give constant support, we all need support in married life and where can we find it, it's in our own family!
