My view is that if a person begins to count from the gain and loss of a relative, it is neither a mature performance nor a witness to the face of a loved one, but a bottom line that is already low and low.
I used to be a calculating person. People who always care about it will never care about this idea, but they have changed their view from my mother and a classmate. How immature fought in the society, the family and not help, and relatives face already see through.
Mother is still under age to support the frontier, 39 yuan to send 30 yuan to my home, and only 9 yuan of living expenses, because there are 5 siblings in the family, and continued until I grew up, which I later learned. In my impression, I return home every year, my uncle and aunt are very good to me, I want to try to meet all the best, and they are also in good harmony, unlike people in other people's family not home many all day long fart quarrel. Every time I mention, mother is very proud that my family will not be so vulgar as snobbish little citizens.
And it all collapsed when I was graduating from the University. I had the opportunity to return to my home. The relatives said the total difficulty was not done. Later, my mother learned from his classmates that all the people knew the pitiful side. The policy was loose, even if not the loved ones were only willing to go back. They did, and my mother heard it almost crazy.
My mother gave me all the truth in a tear and a runny nose. All the harmony I had in my eyes was her money mattress. At ordinary times, the money was not counted. I went back to my eyes to make her home not a snob mother in my eyes. All of them are floating clouds. In her words, you can figure out that I can, and dare to count my son's head, so as to completely break away from her family.
Fortunately, I do not care about the return of my home, I can say I do not want to go back, but my mother is not going to pass it. I have been saying I'm sorry, but I didn't send money to my home and sent me abroad. I didn't expect to be cheated by a stranger who could do it all my life.
Long winded so much in order to clarify the background and avoid misunderstandings. In fact, even if the mother cried, I hate my aunt and aunt, the mother's request does not represent me, and at least from my point of view they have always been good to me. The money spent by my mother is quite worth it. If I hate my mother's too long hard money, it will be a waste. It is normal to be snobbish and snobbish in a snobbish citizen's circle, like a mother who lives at a high level in the mountains, and will find it an important thing to face.
Examples of students do not say, people will be extreme change of the fuse only one, this fuse free in the bottom line, and become immature, do not see much of the relationship, those who never turn to the bottom line is too low, or there is no bottom line at all.