Hey Guys!
So today I want to share something about myself that I kinda want to change and am able to slowly change this unwanted trait and this trait is being shy most of the time especially when meeting new friends.
Yes. I'm one of those people who doesn't talk to people unless they talk to me first.
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But after a few conversations, I tend to be the craziest among the groups. Then again, Yes, I'm one of those people. Haha!
(Although this is not a good thing to keep up, there are also perks on being this silent. One of them is being respected without a question whenever you need privacy and this is because they don't know you and what you are capable of doing.
One example was when our college dean was trying to scold me but didn't get to do it anyways because of me being silent to strangers. As what my colleagues know, our college dean is a very strict person and a person who really speaks out her mind whenever she wants to and the thought that she has the power to let you NOT graduate is terrifying. Now thinking that our dean did not raise her voice at me, got me instant respect from my colleagues. Now ain't that a nice thing? Haha)
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Now as myself, I, most of the time, assess myself on what, where, why, how I did wrong. And because of that, I solve problems that come to me and I'm able to navigate myself on what to do next time I encounter that problem or whether it is still on going.
What I assessed on why I am being like this is because I have a very strict grand father whom I could not answer back to even if what I'm going to say is right. Growing up in that way made me look up to my superiors as if they were slave
masters who can kill me anytime I speak out my mind. In other words, I am TOO subservient.
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Now I have been like this my whole life but I got tired of being like this. I started to think of ways on how to overcome such trait without hurting others. So I'll give out the tips that I did to change my trait slowly. But remember. This is only my opinion and I think that I'm the only one doing this. But feel free to do this also if you feel comfortable. :)
- Be engaged in activities that lets you converse with other people.
- I am currently being elected as the President of the English Majors in our university although I had the option to decline but chose not to because I am trying to develop myself in each aspect in life including this certain trait that I'm trying to improve. It turns out that it is working well. :)
- Be yourself when talking and be honest.
- Whenever I meet new friends nowadays, I tend to tell them the truth on what I think about what we just talked. I don't try to impress them through telling them what I DON'T KNOW but instead, I impress myself by being me the entire time I have a conversation with them.
Listen, but keep in mind the word RESPECT.
-See, people tend to end up in an argument because they don't respect each other's opinion. They key to a good conversation is to listen on what the other person is saying and respecting on what their opinion is. Every person has a different mind that's why you can't force your idea if they don't want to do so.RESPOND or at least give a VERBAL NOD.
- After listening to the person you are talking to, make sure to let him/her know that you are listening by giving a verbal nod or responding. Let the person finish talking first because they might think that you don't have respect them if you disturb them even if they are still talking. Unless if you're sure that they'll like what you're gonna say then that's fine. :)
- If you are still too shy to talk to other people but you want to, you can bring a trusted friend with you.
- I still do this most of the time but keep in mind, "Trusted Friend", because if you're gonna bring a person you are not close with, they might say inappropriate things . Bringing a trusted friend boosts your confidence in most of the situations and they can really help a lot when it comes to talking to new friends.
A quick summary on what I am doing to improve myself and what you can do is to BE ENGAGED, BE YOURSELF AND BE HONEST, LISTEN AND RESPECT, RESPOND, and/or BRING A FRIEND.
I hope that this will help. Please be sure to follow me for more tips from my true to life experiences. Don't forget to comment and an UPVOTE would really be appreciated.
Thanks for reading! Have a great day! :D
