Determine and Identify Candidate Pairs
Before stepping away to apply for a woman, decide which women to apply first and make sure that we have known so that the application procession is more efficient and smooth. Because applying is not a simple matter that can be easily started and canceled. The application procession will also involve families from both sides.Candidate Pairs Must Be Single And Unrestricted
Make sure the woman to be applied is a woman who is not married and not in khitbah by others.Establishing a Heart To Apply
Include God in every choice that we will take especially mate problem, make sure by approaching to God and ask for guidance and steadiness of heart, like istikhoroh prayer.Requesting Permission to the Couple Candidate
Because the application procession is not less important with the procession of marriage, then it is better before applying a woman to both parents first we ask the opinion of the woman, whether he is willing to be proposed or not. This minimizes the rejection of the women because it can cause a rift between the two families.
This can be done by asking for help from his brother or by asking directly to the woman accompanied by the man who is his brother.Asking for License on Guardian of the prospective partner to be Applied
If biodata and meetings have been done then the next step is to ask permission to the female guardian to apply officially. If allowed, then the application process will continue on the process of marriage between the two candidates.
On this matter the Messenger of Allaah shalallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"Do not marry a widow until you ask for her opinion and do not marry a virgin until you ask for her permission." The Companions asked, "How do we know he permits?" He also said, "He said nothing." (H.R. Bukhari and Muslim)