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When a man is in love, and a lady rejects him, it shatters his ego. This is why sometimes they feel it is not appropriate for a lady to ask a man out. I don’t find it odd. In fact, I would love it hahaha. I think this is because ladies are too emotional, so it shatters their sense of worth of the guy turns them down.
Back in line. When we love someone and we don’t get it back, we feel the need to start fixing what is not broken. We start filling our head with a load of questions about Am I not good enough? Could it be because I don’t have money? or What was he or she expecting? and we start going all out to impress someone who has given an honest response in the first place. We try to pressure the person, so he or she can give in and when they eventually do, we wonder why it didn’t work out. The same thing is applicable in friendship.
Rather than sell yourself short because you are looking for acceptance, rather be who you are and seek to evolve. The bottom line is, not everyone would like or love you. If everyone loves you, you need to be more careful even because maybe someone is giving a false value. Life is like that. The truth is, you don’t like or love everyone either, and it is not because you have something against such person. You just don’t “flow” with that person and rather than mess things up, all you do is just greet them, go your way.
Not everyone will like or love you, so stop living your life trying to impress people.
People’s negative thoughts about you shouldn’t determine how you live your life, especially when you know you have done nothing wrong and you have peace with it.
There is no higher court than the court of conscience.
A friend of mine can’t help but beat herself up because she felt she isn’t good enough. She feels she might never find another guy as this who will tolerate her. She feels everything is her fault. People sometimes want us to live at their mercy. They want to control how we feel and how we think. Like I always tell people around me, always do what you feel is best for you. If you make a mistake, learn from it, if you make a headway, rejoice and trust your instincts more and aim higher. However, living your life in sadness because someone left or because someone did or didn’t do something, now that is a dangerous path to tread on.
Final word: Not everyone would like you, and it has nothing to do with what you have done or didn’t do, most of the times. It is always a personal decision and you have to learn to accept things you cannot control. You can’t control how people feel about you, you can’t control what people think about you, even if you decided to do things with the best of intentions. Stop seeking approvals. Don’t beat yourself up for it and don’t hate them also for it. Everyone would always want to do what’s best for them. Do what’s best for you, by feeling good about who you are.
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.