Gratitude is something I see as a powerful tool. It helps me to direct my energy and my focus towards things that are beneficial to me, through giving thanks for these things. And it feels good :)

Forgiveness is another powerful tool. Through taking a look at what has happened in the past, I am able to come to forgiveness, of myself or another, so that I am no longer holding my heart away. So typically I come to forgiveness within myself, and if I see that they are at a place to discuss it and be open to what happened, then I am able to speak that forgiveness into the relationship. Although at it's root forgiveness is for me, as I don't like to keep my heart away from anyone, especially myself.