My oldest daughter has a different dad than the rest of my kids.
And he's not the most responsible father (to her, from what I understand, he is an absolute delight to the rest of his children, biological and adopted).
He hasn't seen her in years, as in more than three although, it could be as many as five. Reason I don't know is because his visits when he is around are sporadic.
He is also behind on child support $26,915.71 USD behind to be exact. His payments are less than $500 USD per month, so it's taken a while to get to this point.
Usually, if I receive some type of support, I leave well enough alone, and let the County of San Diego do its thing. Their enforcement actions include license suspension, bank levies, and any tax refunds are also re-directed.
Sometimes though, when it has been months, I call the child support agency and give them a little nudge.
But first, I do a little bit of Online Stalking
Since he doesn't have any social media accounts, I look at what his wife's posts.
It's silly I know, and it really means, nothing, I also know. On social media we post what we want people to see and not necessarily what is reality.
But still. I look.
It has been about 10 weeks without any payments, and what did I find in the past 10 weeks?
Vacation pictures, Pinterest Boards planning elaborate parties (A Quince party, to be exact), pictures of kids at soccer camps, and even posts of the wife bragging about new name brand shoes.
Just because they are enjoying these things, doesn't mean my daughter's father is paying for them. It doesn't even mean that they are current pictures (hey, people like to pretend), and of course, Pinterest Boards, can be made on a whim, or as a dream board, or even out of sheer boredom. Who knows?
Perhaps the wife is no longer a "Proud Stay at Home Mom" or perhaps, etc, etc, etc. There are infinite possibilities.
I do know one thing though, the guilt of giving the child support agencies a little nudge is non-existent, this time around.
