People say long distance relationships has very low chances of success. I say Long Distance Relationship are for the Strong.
Everyone prays for a love so strong it will sweep you off your feet. Have you ever heard of anyone praying for a long distance relationship? because I haven't and I for one did not pray for it. I prayed for long road trips, romantic dates, movie date nights and cuddles kind of relationship. Not in this lifetime did I expect I'd be in a relationship with someone on the opposite side of this planet. Yep, it's true, i fell hard on the difficult path.
In this situation and in the almost two years in, I learned that in a long distance relationship the love is the same as in any other love. It's strong, it's passionate, it has its own ups and downs. The same parties, a man and a woman and I guess, the same prayed for ending. The difference is the distance, yet with the effort we both put in distance seems irrelevant. What kind of effort you say? Well, its waking him up and saying "GoodMorning" to someone when I just got off from my 8-5 job. It's staying up late at night to accompany him through his day via phone calling. It's reminding him of his appointments and to do things when you have different date and time. It's texting him about your day and hear his reactions hours later yet still excited about it. The good thing is it's not just me doing this because he does this to me to. He asks for my opinion about his friends, people I never met yet I constantly hear about. He tells me about his day and asks me about just anything about him. With this little things our relationship strives, our relationship grew strong.
AND YES we do fight, we fight about the big things and the little things. I nag about missed calls and he complains about unattended phones. We argue about our finances just like any other couple. We have big fights yet we never think about giving up. We have a saying you see "AWAY LANG WA'Y BUWAGAY" in other words "quarell (fight) but no leaving". We aim to understand and resolve our issues.
Anywaaaaaay. this is getting long and i haven't enumerated my guide yet. So here it is:
A Girls Guide to Holding On
- Communicate
- Put an effort to be in his life and include him in yours
- Don't keep secrets
- Share
- Trust
6.Communicate
7.Understand - Trust
- Have a life of your own and be you, because just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you can't be you and live your own life anymore.
Yes LongDistance Relationship takes more effort than normal, but isn't it more fulfilling too? to have known that you fought for something you love.