A little kind of cultural conflict: Why is it a weird thing to say the praising words such as "I'm proud of you, Teacher" in the English-speaking cultural background？
一个文化小冲突：为什么说“我为你骄傲，老师”之类的赞美语言在英语文化背景下听上去却很别扭？
Today I would like to share a new English lesson online from Teacher Mike!
今天我且分享一下Mike老师的网上新课程。
A lot of people comment "I’m proud of you, Teacher."
许多人留言说："老师，我为你骄傲"。
First of all, thank you.
首先，谢谢你。
However this is a really weird thing to say to a teacher.
然而，这样对老师讲，真的特别扭。
Students aren’t usually proud of their teachers. It’s usually the opposite. Teachers are usually proud of their students.
学生通常不能对他们的老师感到骄傲。恰恰相反，老师通常为学生骄傲。
Let’s talk about why.
让我们谈一下为什么。
If you are proud, you have a very positive feeling about your actions, your identity, or the actions of someone close to you.
如果你感到骄傲，说明你对你的行为、你的身份，或对你亲近的人的行为保有一种积极的心态。
Let’s look at some examples.
让我们看一些例子。
First, let’s talk about being proud of your actions or achievements.
首先，让我们谈谈为你的行为或成就骄傲的话题。
I’m proud that I graduated from high school. This means that I feel very good about myself because I graduated from high school. That was a special achievement for me.
我骄傲我高中毕业了。这意味着自我感觉良好，因为我高中毕业了。对我来说，那是一个特别的成就。
I’m proud that I built a successful business. When I think about my business that I built, it makes me feel good about myself. I feel that I am special.
我骄傲我创立了一个成功的商业。当我想到我开创的商业时，它使我感觉很不错。我觉得我是特别的。
Now, let’s talk about being proud of your identity.
现在我们来谈一下对你身份感到骄傲的话题。
I’m proud to be Nicaraguan. This means that I have a strong positive feeling about myself that comes from my Nicaraguan nationality. I believe that I am special because I am Nicaraguan.
我为身为一名尼加拉瓜人感到骄傲。这意味着我对自己是尼加拉瓜裔感觉良好。我相信我是特别的，因为我是尼加拉瓜人。
I’m a proud democrat. This means that I have a strong positive feeling about myself that comes from my identity as a democrat. Being a democrat makes me feel good.
我是一名骄傲的民主党人。这意味着我对自己是民主党人的身份感觉很棒。成为一位民主党人感觉真好。
Now, finally let’s talk about being proud of another person.
最后我们来说一下为别人感到骄傲的话题。
When we are proud of another person, it is usually someone who we know personally. A family member, a close friend, or maybe a student.
当我们为另一个人感到骄傲时，通常是我们在私人生活领域中了解的人。比如，一位家庭成员，一位密友或一名学生。
And it is usually because they did something very good or very difficult.
通常也因为他们做了一些出色或者困难的事情。
For example:
例如：
-My friend had a drinking problem, but he has not drunk alcohol in five years. I am proud of him.
我朋友有酗酒的毛病，但他已经有5年不再喝酒了。我为他骄傲。
- I am proud of my daughter, because she always treats other people with respect.
我为我的女儿感到骄傲。因为她总是礼貌待人。
-I am proud of my student, because after months of hard work, he finally passed his exam.
我为我的学生感到骄傲，因为通过数月的努力，他终于通过了考试。
My mother can be proud of me. She is very close to me. She has watched me grow from a baby into an adult. She has seen me achieve difficult things in my life.
我的妈妈能为我感到骄傲。因为她与我很亲近。她是我从一个小婴儿到长大成人的见证者。她看到过我是如何克服生活中的困难。
My high school teachers can be proud of me. They worked closely with me for several years. They helped me to grow and to learn. They can feel special about who I am now, because they knew me when I was much younger, and they helped me to become who I am now.
我的高中老师能为我感到骄傲。数年来，他们一直和我在一起。他们一直帮助我成长和学习。他们能为我是谁感到特别。因为他们在我年青的时候就了解我，他们帮我成为了现在的我。
My manager can be proud of me. She knew me when I did not have knowledge or experience. She helped me and watched my as I worked hard to become a better employee.
我的经理能为我感到骄傲。当我还没有知识和经验时，她就知道我。她帮助我并看着我一路努力工作成为更好的雇员。
For 99% of my followers, you do not have a close personal relationship with me.
然而，对于我的99%的followers来说，你们与我并没有一个亲密的关系。
You haven’t known me for a long time, and/or you have never met me in real life.
你们知道我的时间并不长，或者你们也从没在现实生活中遇到过我。
And you don’t really know about the things that I have done in my life. You don't know what difficulties I have faced or what things I have accomplished.
你们并不真的知道我生活里的所作所为。你们也不知道我面临的困难或我取得的成就。
There is not a reason for you to be proud of me.
(所以)你们没有理由为我感到骄傲。
However, you can be proud of YOUR identity as a follower of this page.
然而，你们能为你们身为这个页面的follower感到骄傲。
You don’t feel good because you have watched me work hard, learn, and grow. You haven't done those things.
你们并没有感觉良好，由于你们看到我努力工作学习和成长。事实是你们也根本没有看到过。
You feel good because you are a member of this page, and this page makes you happy.
你们感觉良好，是因为你们是这个页面的会员，这个页面使你们感到幸福。
So you probably shouldn’t say “I’m proud of you,” because you don’t know very much about me or my life.
所以你们或许不应当说“我为你骄傲”的话。因为你们并不真的认识我或了解我的生活。
But you definitely CAN say “I’m proud to follow you,”✅ or “I’m proud to learn with you.”✅
但是你们绝对可以说“我为有幸跟随你感到骄傲”，或者“我很骄傲能向你学习”。
However, I still think that that is a weird thing to say.
但我仍然认为这是一种别扭的说话。
The most normal things to say to a teacher would be something like:
对一个老师最通俗的说法可能是这样的：
I appreciate your lessons.✅
I really enjoy learning with you.✅
I am grateful for your support.✅
我欣赏你的课程。
跟你学习我真的很享受。
我感谢你的支持。
I don't see any reason to be proud.
因为我没看到有任何理由为止骄傲。
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Comments from Teacher Mike's followers:
来自Mike老师followers的留言：
Student A: I would be proud of you when you do something extraordinary that exeeds what normally teachers do.
学生A: 因为你做着有别于普通老师的与众不同的事情，所以我为你感到骄傲。
Student B: Thank you for your wonderful explanation so much.
However, I guess it is due to from the different cultural backgrounds since we are in an international class online.
In some culture and society, it is normal and natural for a student to say they are proud of their teacher, or for a son/daughter to say they are proud of their parents. Sometimes learning a kind of language is learning a kind of culture! Thank you for your teaching us English culture!
学生B: 感谢你精彩的解释！
不过，我以为这一切源于来自不同的文化背景，因为我们是一个国际性的网上课堂。
在一些文化或社会中，学生对老师说“我为老师感到骄傲”或子女对父母说“我为父母感到骄傲”很普遍也很自然。有些时候，学一门语言其实是学习一种文化。感谢您正在教我们英语文化！