My very young parents of four kids struggled enormously to keep their marriage together.It was a chaos.Mom didnt really want to be a mother nor a wife.My father however idealised having a Christian based model family....doing good for others.So while me and my siblings yearned for love, stability and attention , my father took in children from France for the summer.Those kids were mostly very disturbed emotionally, from poor families, etc. About six summer's like that basically destroyed the fun of family life for everyone involved.My father continued till his seventies to take on foster kids (from youthcare Netherlands) with his new wife later on. We , as his biological children would not even let our own kids stay overnight at Grandpa.So, you can imagine what difficulties these foster kids had to go through.