LOVE'S FIRES NEEDS FANNING!!!
The woman knows instinctively how much coquetry can aid her, the adoption of certain defensive attitude, a giving followed by a withrawal, an advance then a quick retreat. No words set on paper can Council just how far she would retreat without running the rest of finding the risk that her man is no longer in pursuit. Women know such things instinctively. It is useless to seek to advise in detail just how they should employ one of the oldest weapon in eve's armory. Some women erroneously think than men are creatures whose desires needs no arousing. They expect men to 'cut out sentimentality', to quote an often used expression. The result of this attitude is likely to be that the man concerned comes to regard such a woman as cold and distant. His own ardour may be damped accordingly. For good reason, women used coquetry throughout history, to win love. Both parties to the love act can play materially by playing their full part from the start.
Some modern women will remark as such 'if a man wants me, that's sufficient; there is no need for me to arouse him,' of cos there is some truth to it. Theoretically, the fact that a man desires a woman may be enough. He can proceed to complete intercourse without any stimulation such as love play affords. But the woman who acts on that theory usually regrets it. LOVE'S FIRES NEEDS FANNING. I women as well as men must help in a sphere which demands co-operation if the highest mutual pleasure is to be achieved.
Apart from those exceptional women reffered to else-where, who want to be seized, compelled, mastered in spite of their own resistance, the great majority want to be led step by step through the various stages sexual intercourse. Tender words, compléments, loving expressions, always provided they are discriminatingly employed, with no suggestions of parrot-like routine about them, mean so much to us all. And they play a valuable part in arousing desire, gently and gradually, just as various tactile and other stimulatory impressions quicken the pace of preparation, of 'making ready'. When the more intimate forms of Love-play begin.
It must not be assumed that even words are sufficient. Closely attuned to each other as the partners are, emotionally, each will be quick to detect a false note, any enforced endearment which lacks sincerity. Each must feel that the deepest emotional being of the other is being genuinely expressed. Women particularly are extremely quick to detect insincerities, just as a bad setting to a love relationship will often influence them much more more than will the man.
As soon as a touch comes into play, whether active or passive, Love-play in its closer for takes over. The first kiss marks the most obvious step from the Prelude to the Love-play stage. Touches who might have deeply aroused one or both of the parties, as in the holding of hands, may have strengthened desire. But the kiss, especially if both partners give themselves to it, marks the passing of the more distant relationship. It is a sense the beginning of actual and real intercourse of physical nature. From. The first kiss, touch is likely to play a much more important part than any other sense.
Bloch has written: 'it is a true saying that a woman who permits a man to kiss her will ultimately grant him complete possession'. That is a rather sweeping assertion these days when kisses cover so wide a range, from page friendly kisses cover so wide range, from the friendly kiss and to the one which merely says 'thank you for a pleasant evening', to the erotic kiss which not only the lips but the tongues of the lovers come into play. It may have been true, at one time, that to quote Bloch again 'by majority of sensitive women the kiss is valued just as highly as the last favour'. i.e. Complete possession. But it is almost certainly not so today. Many a woman will offer her lips to a man with whom the very idea of complete sexual Union will be completely out of the question.
But it may be safe to say that a woman who yields to a man, and participate fully in, a deeply erotic kiss is well on the way to yielding herself completely. For the erotic kiss, as distinct from the lips caresses which are often given and accepted more in the same way as handshakes, is one of the most powerful stimuli of desire.
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