Here, Adam was pursuing the purpose of his life, tending the garden God gave him and obeying His will. He was not pursuing marriage at all. He never considered marriage because; he was consumed with divine purpose - God’s work. But, God realized he was alone. When you pursue the work God has given to you, God will interrupt your life and introduce your life partner, the right suitor to you. You don’t need to struggle with marital issue, only get busy with your purpose and God’s work.
Again, one of the importance of singlehood is self-identification. Identity realization is the major essence of singlehood. Who are you? What are you made of? What is your temperament? What dream are you pursuing? Which destination are you heading? What is your faith? What is your strength?what kind of woman have you realized that you can love? And what kind of man do you think you can submit to?
Wrong marriage is not just marrying an abusive partner, it is marrying someone who has no grace at all to partner you in the realization of your destiny. You must ensure that you are spiritually, emotionally, physically and intellectually sound. Can you imagine marrying a shallow person? “Deep calleth unto deep.” The decision of the person you date or marry depends on the level of your spirituality at the time when you make the decision.
How would a man going to kumasi give a lift to a lady who wants to embark on a journey to Togo. Two different people on a journey to two different places yet in one car. Nothing frustrates marriages like two people having totally divergent opinions and focuses in life. This will be a recipe for unending confusion.
You need to understand that, there are beautiful witches and handsome devils. If you can't see beyond the beauty of the woman and the deep pocket of the man, you will surely fall into this trap. If you discover your identity, be patient until you find your PARTNER. Don't rush into marriage. Don't marry to satisfy others. I am not saying don't marry but you know after the beautiful wedding, everyone will leave you to embrace the repercussions or aftereffects of the choice you have made. The fact that your family, friends and colleagues will be proud about your classy partner or wedding doesn't mean you will be happy in the marriage. It is better to disappoint them and have peace with the one of your choice than to please them with an all-fly lady or gentleman, and suffer later.
Seek God's will, that is the only way YOU CAN FIND FULFILMENT, when you cross into the stage of marriage. Why will you spend so much time being single only to walk into a hell of marriage? We are in an era where people marry for all the wrong reasons. Only God knows the number of people going to the Altar not because it was well planned but because there is a secret pregnancy that must be covered with the marriage. To some they just desperately want someone to take care of them so they marry. Others are concerned with their age. The worse scenario are the ladies who have to constantly fight off several women around the man they want to marry. Find something better to do with your life young lady. No focused man will carry more than one woman along his journey. And set them up for embarrassment. It is
better to have a homeboy who is your own than to have a glamorous person who has made himself a national cake. If the need be, you just must allow your work colleagues, younger siblings and peers take the lead and marry. And join them later with your perfect choice.
Again I say is a blessing to be single but much more, is a blessing to be married. Keep acquiring the right knowledge as single. Pursue your God-given dreams, and God will surely let you cross path with the best partner.