…continued… from part 1
When he was with his girlfriend and the pressure were so much, he found his wife and he kept her on the sidelines. He told me he explained the situation to the woman he now married and how they are to keep their relationship under wrap for the time being so the girlfriend he was living with then wouldn’t feel bad or terrible or even hurt herself because he already knows that once his family kicks against his girlfriend then, they can’t end up together.
The woman he married now did all sorts to threaten the girlfriend then with strange calls, abuse, untimely visit just to make the girlfriend know and all sorts but he saw all these warning signs but he didn’t take them seriously.
I always tell people that the warning signs are always there and what you can’t accept, either you address it or you reject it outright, but we are so concerned about the desires to get married rather than marrying someone who fits right into our lives. It breaks my heart to see families dictate who their children would marry. I am glad I don’t have such family, because I am a strong personality and wouldn’t accept just anyone into my own space. I see a lot of people suffer inside because of the pressure their family placed on them or by the person chosen for them to marry. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and you don’t need to allow anyone make that decision for you.
I have a lady around me, whom the mother forced into marrying, and this guy drained this lady emotionally and financially and to make it more difficult, they have a baby and one day the man walked away. Now the mother of the lady is feeling terribly bad for forcing her daughter to marry someone she didn’t have feelings for. She was so messed up and it drained her and stripped her of her romantic nature. It is a horrible situation to be in and this is why we need to think ahead and be careful with whom we finally decide to settle with.
…to be continued…
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My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.