I often wonder, what is the best state of a woman?
In fact, to achieve these three points, you can be more calm, less anxiety and confusion.
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Work harder and work
Why do women have their own work, in fact, everyone knows that because of work, it will generate money, dignity, and the right to free choice.
Strictly speaking, you are a strong woman in the workplace, or a small shop employee. It is a monthly salary of tens of thousands, or a guaranteed income. It is possible to point to the country, or to obey orders. It is really not so important.
What matters is not how much you can earn, but how much you have the ability to make money.
The important thing is not whether you can be pampered, but you have the strength to live independently.
The important thing is not that you can choose your own life, but you can say goodbye with a bad life when there is no way to go.
There are often girls in love, in order to retain the beloved man, he will resign from his stable work and wander with him.
Some married women, in order to run their feelings, would rather be the woman behind him, wash their hands for soup, or even be a canary at home.
There are also some young mothers who are not worried about their children, completely separated from the society, left their posts and become a full-time wife.
In fact, regardless of the cause, family, and children, how tired, how difficult, and not easy, the woman should not give up is the job.
Maybe you are just a moment of ease, maybe just want to put happiness on, or maybe you find a backing for a lifetime.
But if you lose your job, you will lose half of your confidence and security. If you have an accident and are abandoned by your husband, you will become the weak one who has no struggling ability.
A woman who has work, strength, and money can truly live independently, freely, without fear.
-02-
Don't forget to read again
There are often women who say that work is too busy, life is too fast, even the time of rest is not enough, how can there be time to study.
Many women, in their twenties, are gentle, watery women who speak well and do things with a sense of proportion and attitude.
However, when they get married and have children, after going through the washing of rice and oil, they will become more and more greasy, vulgar and shallow.
As Jia Baoyu said in "Dream of Red Mansions", "all the girls are pearls, and they are wives. After being a mother, they become turbid fisheye beads."
The reason is that those women do not have rich connotations, ambitious patterns, and positive good attitudes.
In fact, the more you sink in the mud of life, the more you have to take time to study.
Many people think that reading is actually useless. Every day there are clothes that can't be washed, things that can't be finished, and where they can't be finished. Where is the time to study?
In fact, on the contrary, a woman who studies has a broader vision and can live more transparently, even more resistant than ordinary women.
Some people say that you can only live once without reading, but you can experience thousands of life.
Women who read books, even if they are born in the dusty world, can still live their lives, and even if they encounter things that are not good, they can not be entangled.
Even in the face of bottlenecks, you can quickly jump out of bad mood. Even if you encounter a hurdle that cannot be turned over, you will not be hysterical and lose your sense of proportion.
If in practical terms, reading is not useful, but it can cultivate self-cultivation, giving you strong spiritual support in many casual moments, and it can make you suddenly open in misty troubles.
There is a huge difference in the nature of women who read and do not read.
-03-
Traveling poorly
Many women, who are kept in the house for a lifetime, do not want to go out and are afraid to go out.
Because there is no time to go out, there is no extra leisure money. Secondly, when traveling, if there is no accompanying person around, it makes no sense.
Some people even think that the money spent on travel can buy a lot of new cosmetics, clothes and bags.
In life, women who do not love to travel are usually narrow-minded. They care more about material enjoyment and completely ignore spiritual exploration and freedom.
The woman who loves to travel is usually more atmospheric, because I have seen the mountains and seas, I have seen the ends of the earth, and I have walked through the plateau desert. Their eyes are wide open, and their minds are naturally broadened, so they will not care about small things.
Someone once said that they don’t climb mountains and don’t know the mountains. Do not wading, do not know the depth of water. If you don't appreciate the wonders, how can you know that it is wonderful? If you read thousands of books, you still have to travel thousands of miles.
Many women, envious of others, can come to a trip that says they will leave.
Most of the time, it’s not that they can’t go, the money is not enough, and the time is not enough. Instead, they are reluctant to spend too much energy and money on the matter of travel.
Many women live a very practical life. They feel that travel is a dispensable thing, but often such people live without quality of life.
And those women who love to travel are not really idle, nor are they really rich, but they know how to feed their spiritual food.
I remember that Cai Wei once said that women either read or travel. A woman who often loves to travel usually lives more advanced.
May we all remember these three points, always full of enthusiasm, fear of age, fearless change, and strive to cultivate what you like.
.Source: http://www.microexist.com