I don't like any of those terms; but, if we're gonna use them it's only fair that it goes both ways.
Imagine a world in which men do want to cry in public with impunity. Imagine a world in which men want to know that we can wear our hearts on our sleeves and get a hug whenever we want one.
We don't live in that world. As a man, I can tell you that I personally don't want to live in that world and that I wouldn't fit in to that world. I also don't think that that world would be good for anybody.
I'm willing to say that I've cried. That doesn't bother me. I think we all have. But, yeah, it's part of being a man that we don't do it all the time and that we hold our emotions back better than our female counterparts.
Can any woman who has (admirably) said that men should be enabled to show their feelings honestly say that, as a sexual specimen, you would find a man more attractive by breaking down in tears? Assuming ceteris paribus, can you imagine yourself being more sexuality attracted to the man who needs a hug than you would be to the man who is there to give you a hug when you need one?
There's a big movement to try to feminize men and normalize men to be more emotionally open.
We don't do that. We shouldn't do that. We don't naturally do that. You don't really want us to do that. You would be horrified if we did do that.
Part of being a man is keeping our feelings in check.
That's our role as a gender and it is hard.
But, women shouldn't be explaining how we deal with our feelings in this regard. I appreciate the attempt at empathy; but, men are aware that men displaying emotions is a dangerous thing. We're also aware that most of us don't do it naturally. It would take work for me to cry or to lash out. That's work that I don't want to do.
Men are 90% of the prison population in regard to violent criminals. That's what happens when men wear their emotions on their sleeves. Women aren't attracted to men who cry a lot. That's the reality of men showing emotions.
The best thing that men can be is stoic.
It's an evolutionarily compulsion. It's how men pass our genes into the next generation. It's how we make ourselves somewhat desirable to women.
It's the safe bet.