Working mothers: no to the sense of guilt

Despite the increasing number of examples of happy reconciliation of motherhood and work, one of the "knots" common to working mothers continues to be the guilt of not being able to guarantee children a continuous presence, especially in the early years. In theory, the agreement is almost unanimous on the fact that it is the quality and not the amount of time spent with children that makes a difference, but in everyday life it often suffices that the little day shows intolerance towards grandparents or babysitters, is less attentive at school, quieter than usual, or perhaps more disobedient than at once triggers self-certification: "And if it was because I work and spend little time with him?".

If the mother is happy, her children are happy too.

Even today it is still widespread among many mothers the conviction, hard to die, that children, if the mother stays at home, are happier and that if this is the prize for sacrifice, well worth giving up their personal realization and economic independence. In fact, that is not the case. Of course, educating children is always a small daily effort. But a working mother manages to carry it out, probably with great balance, thanks to the detachment that her activity gives her, especially if you have the good fortune to carry out a profession for her gratifying. Without forgetting that a working mother is more informed, has more stimuli to draw on and often more open-mindedness.

Benefits for a working mother

• Give happiness to your children. Satisfaction in your profession feeds your good mood and therefore also your children's mood. * For him to have a model of happy mother, who plays with ease more roles is a source of pride and a good incentive to realize his own projects in turn.
• The moments together acquire more value. Your return home becomes a party every day for your child. At work you find your personal realization and for him it is only a wealth.
• Your child is "vaccinated" against difficulties. A working mother anticipates the autonomy of the child, who will be more ready for unforeseen events and small daily difficulties. Just as the body becomes stronger thanks to contact with enemies, so the distance of the parent gets children used to counting more on themselves.

Learn to overcome difficulties for a working mother

• Win anxiety from perfectionism. No child wishes a perfect mother, indeed, a perfect mother. It grows much calmer with parents who do not hide their own weaknesses and therefore manage to forgive them with more indulgence. Unattainable life goals serve only to accumulate frustration.
• Dissolve feelings of guilt. Learn from your child. Look at him and you will see that he takes reality in two hands as it comes and that he does not have if he invents it from time to time. Try to do this as well: often the problems arise from our projections.
• Get help where you can't get there on your own. A good organization halves fatigue for a working mother. Try, then, to plan in advance everything you can: timetables, activities, various help from grandparents, aunts, nannies, friends.