“I don’t want this to go to your head, but [insert compliment]”
This is how you get complimented by your relatives in Finland.
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Being proud of yourself is right at the top of sin list in Finland
Of course I hate the kind of proudness that is for example seen a lot in the hip hop culture, wearing (fake) diamonds and gold chains and yelling out that you are the best and baddest in town. But I also hate it if you gravel in front of people to make it seem like you have done nothing when you have actually achieved something great in your life. It might not be the cure for cancer, but maybe you lost 30 kilos and are in the best shape of your life, or your newest painting is the best you have made so far, be proud of yourself!
The middle ground people! Not too humble, not too vain!
I know where my strengths lie, and what I am good at, and I’m not going to be fake humble when I know I have created something I really like. I fucking know that I work hard, and I constantly evaluate my old works, trying to get better at my craft, and I know when I struck gold. It might not go to trending, but that doesn’t mean I should be any less proud of myself.
Not everyone will agree with you, and you should never try to please everyone, but be true to yourself and proud of your works. Don’t let anyone put you down if you have worked hard to make something happen for yourself, and don’t downgrade the achievement by “blaming” luck or some other outside force when you worked really hard for your goal. Even though self evaluation and criticism are essential for your personal growth, you have to remember to congratulate yourself when you hit another milestone on your way to your goal.
It makes me really uncomfortable if I compliment someone and they say something like:”Oh it was nothing, I just got lucky/I think it’s average/my neighbours cat is better”, when they just painted something equal to Mona Lisa. You little fucker, you do not deserve my compliment, I take it back!
I know some amazingly talented people in different fields, and sometimes they need to be smacked over the head to make them realise how good they actually are. Downgrading yourself will not make others any better or lift them to your level, your success is not taking away from anyone else. Don’t hide your shine.