CAN A PASTOR CHOOSE A SPOUSE FOR ME?
Hello, it is not bad at all to seek validation from your pastor before making a marital choice, we all have what we believe in, and of a truth whatever faith we hold on to is what works for us. I believe that.
But dear friend, these are no longer the days of Elijah, Daniel and Moses, where the Holy Spirit was only available to special men Chosen by God. In 1Samuel 16, God directed Samuel to anoint the youngest son of Jesse, after which the Holy Spirit came upon David. The Holy Ghost wasn't always available in those times, the Spirit of the Lord comes down on special occasions and on a chosen people, not everyone could boast of the filling of the Spirit. When people wanted to hear from God they go to men who carry the Holy Spirit to help them speak and act on God's behalf.
These are the days of Jesus, where grace and the Spirit of God is in excess abundance. Christ said when i go to my father, i shall send you a comforter who will teach you all things; the Holy Spirit. All things! Including the wisdom to make the right marital decision.
In Acts 2:16 He said "But this is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel; And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams.
Guys, God has poured out His Spirit upon all men, that is what we freely enjoy today, a Spirit that teaches us all things, the one wisest in all counsel. You do not need to keep chasing after pastors to see visions for you on whom to marry, can God not talk to you too? Can the Holy Ghost not counsel you too? Or did the Spirit of God not dwell in you when it was poured out? You have the same authority the pastors and Reverends have, they do not need to go to God for you when God himself is longing to see you come to Him on your own behalf.
If God can talk to any pastor, He can talk to me too! That is my faith, that is my belief. I have the Spirit of God in me. And many times the mistake we make in trying to get our pastor's opinion is that we will go and tell them exactly what the situation is, every single detail, and then ask them to pray on it for us. Nope! That is not a right way to seek counsel, especially concerning marriage. What then are you expecting God to reveal to a pastor after you have told him everything? Leaving him with the choice of deciding for you base on his own understanding of the situation, which you accept as God's revelation for you. That is a wrong counseling pattern, a Pastor can only confirm what God has revealed to me, and not base their revelations on their understanding of my explained situation.
Needing a pastor to decide for you who to marry is one of the most unwise decisions you can ever make, because from that day forward you will keep needing your pastor to decide and intervene on what goes on inside that marriage, truth! Which is the worse spiritual level you can ever bring your marriage to. Marriage requires the filling of the Holy Spirit, as a matter of fact do not think about getting married if you do not have the Holy Spirit working in you, if you are not a carrier. If you're running after spirit filled pastors to chose a spouse for you, which Holy Spirit will you now use to run your marriage after the wedding? The pastors own I guess.
Get the Holy Spirit guys, that is the first necessity to marry right. When you're filled with the Spirit anything the pastors says becomes a confirmation to that which the Lord has already revealed to you.
IT IS TOO LATE TO MAKE A WRONG DECISION!
I hope you somebody caught this?