The 48 HOURS RULE
-- An effective communication pattern every dating couple should learn.
It is true what they say; keeping a healthy relationship equals great communication. The goal is to never stop learning new ways to relate with our partner every day to understand each other better.
And because a great relationship or marriage depends on the quality of communication between boo and bae, a lot of people think this means that we must talk about anything and everything that goes wrong in our relationship.
"speak up anytime you are hurt, do not sweep things under the carpet otherwise it will pile up and hunt you later " they say.
This is the most popular belief about how effective communication should be. If your partner says or does something that hurts you or make you angry you need to tell them about it at once. Which is very true, talking with your partner is always the first aid to fixing a lot of injuries. You just sit them down and trash it out like two mature adults with a perfect understanding of each other’s feelings. This could be great you know, but the only concern about this communication pattern is that a lot of us don’t actually know the kind of things we need to sit down and talk about, because we always want to talk about anything and everything that goes wrong.
Naa, that's not right.
Talking about every little thing that goes wrong in your relationship is not a healthy communication pattern, but an effective communication killer. Too much tutoring and overcorrection will turn you into a nag. The last thing I want is a partner who will take half of our quality time together talking about all the things I did that she didn't like.
So here is an important communication pattern that will bless your relationship or marriage;
The next time your partner does something that makes you angry and you’re having all of those wars and debates in your head that is forcing your lips to burst out, just relax a little bit, if you are still hurt by what your partner did 48 hours later, then sit your partner down and talk about it.
If not; please consider forgetting about it. Don't sweep the hurts under the carpet, that is a FORGIVE and REMEMBER principle, instead throw them out with the trash, and remind yourself that letting go is one of the biggest sacrifices you will always need to make if you truly care about your partner.
Trust me, this rule works like magic, it saves us from regretting a lot of things we would have said in the heat of an angry moment. It gives us time to weigh our anger and decide if it is worth starting a fight over. It gives us time to think of better words, better phrases, and better ways of approaching our partner about our feelings, and most importantly, it gives us room for forgiveness, something we all cannot live without.
Can you make a promise that you will start applying this rule from this moment?
