First, in your own world, you have to self-heal
There are ninety-nine things that are unsatisfactory in life. We learned to comfort others when others were not happy. But more importantly, we should learn to comfort ourselves when we are injured. The words that comfort others may be pleasant, but often they themselves cannot understand and truly understand.
Comforting yourself when you are injured is a sincere and direct dialogue. Your own dialogue is the best comfort, this is the most sincere and warmest. When you are sad, it is also the best time to understand yourself. Quiet, listen slowly to your own voice, and watch the years before.
In fact, you used to be very good. You shook in front of others, and you were full of stars. You might be good, but you are very cute. You smile, as if the world is laughing, you wave your hands, the clouds are shining. Scattered. I don't know why you are fading away now, but you can't lose your cuteness now, and only cute people know how to be sad. You should be glad that you are sad. When you are sad, you get along with you the most. You get along with yourself and your present self. You will find that it feels really good.
If you can find yourself in sorrow, endless grief can turn into a cloud in the sky. But sometimes, the happiness that rushes in, like the stream that has passed through the front door, is like the east, the sea is hard to go west.
What can you keep? What is thrown away?
In a limited time, you should do what you like to do, not to surpass others, just to please yourself. The happiest person should live for himself.
You also need to understand that everyone has their own way of expression. What they say and do is not necessarily what they think. Don't be surprised or angry, you don't necessarily show your true self.
In this complicated life, we all have our own life philosophy - you and me, the first point of thinking, will start from yourself. The thoughts of others will not be understood thoroughly, or they will not be understood at all. Even if you are yourself and yourself, every moment is different. Really good.
Second, learn to walk alone, go further afield
There is such a story: In the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, the ploughing column was the proud student of a generation of masters, but he always accuses Mozi. On one occasion, Mozi blamed the ploughing column. The ploughing column felt that he was very wronged, because among many students, he was recognized as the best person, but he was often accused by Mozi, making him feel very fell shame. One day, the arable column asked Mozi indignantly: "Teacher, is it so bad for so many students that I have to be scolded by your old man from time to time?" Mozi asked after listening: "Assuming you are not My apprentice, do you think I will scold you like this?" Tengzhu replied: "No." Mozi asked again: "Why do I scold you?" The ploughing column shook his head. Mozi said: "Because you are my disciple, we are in the same contradiction, and you are my most important disciple. This contradiction is even deeper."
Therefore, there are many intersections between intimate people, and the contradictions will naturally increase. Although some are not obvious, they exist.
Similarly, we often have contradictions with people around us and the surrounding things. We need to learn to liberate ourselves and learn to let ourselves go alone.
Go further afield, even if more people don't understand it, you have to learn to go on your own. Lonely, always have to be - everyone needs a small silence. The path of one person may be even more significant. At that time, you talk to yourself.
Soothing is also not given by others. People always learn to be their own confidants and be their own listeners. Many things still have to be faced by themselves, and many troubles are always made by themselves.
What we expect is always changing others; what we need is to change ourselves. Many times, when you comment on others and make irresponsible remarks, you have already made a big mistake. We can only see the shortcomings of others, but we never feel narrow. There is a distance between people, and everyone will be a landscape. It is also because of the distance that makes this road landscape more beautiful. You can go alone to know where your world is.
The soul is also only suitable for loneliness. When two people get along, the friction and collision of the soul occur. Every collision, it is inevitable that the mind will not be hurt.
Keep a certain distance, keep it beautiful, and start alone