Something like the shoulder Devil and Angel in the old cartoons !
When it is time to make a decision, big or small, there are at least two voices in our heads -probably more- and they are there for a reason.
One of them or more are related to our past, to our childhood and to our parents.
Actually, they ARE the voices of our parents and this could be both a bad and a good thing, depending on how we were raised ><
The other one is our Higher Self <3
Wikipedia definition:
Higher self is a term associated with multiple belief systems, but its basic premise describes an eternal, omnipotent, conscious, and intelligent being, who is one's real self. Each and every individual has a Higher self.
These voices can either help keep us safe, loved and free OR push us to make decisions out of fear and they partially depend on how we were raised.
A. First Dominant voice
Strong, mature parents gift us with a very good voice!
One that helps us become independent and confident.
To believe in ourselves and to thrive, making decisions that reflect our inner wishes and aspirations.
Immature parents with low self-esteem on the other hand, will unfortunately make us build a generally unstable voice.
One of my parents used to be like this. I can't blame them but I like to be honest.
Such a voice will tell you to always choose safety over challenge and stability over change no matter what the circumstances.
To not try to do better because you may lose what little you already have.
To not fly too close to the sun cause you might burn.
B. Second Dominant voice
Now let's go to the other one of the two dominant voices.
This is probably your OWN voice. Your Higher Self looking out for you.
The easiest way to identify this voice is the following (that's how I experience it):
This voice usually tells me to do the things that will make me happy without harming me but by liberating me and allowing me to be the true version of myself. Of who I was meant to be.
I'll give you an example from my personal life:
Recalling one of my unhealthy relationships where verbal and emotional abuse was the norm, I remember one voice constantly saying "open the door and get the heck out of here, this is NOT LOVE and you don't deserve this" (my Higher Self - My OWN Voice) and another one saying "maybe it's me, maybe I'm asking for it, I should stay in the relationship and work hard to make it work" (NOT my own voice. My parents' relationship used to be like that so this example and way of living was once engraved in my mind as normal so I would automatically go back to that familiar pattern).
The first voice is my Higher true self who knows the truth above and beyond past experiences.
Mindset: Brake free, stop harming yourself and eventually in the long run, BE HAPPY.
The second voice is the FEAR based on my past.
That voice is reflecting my parent's FEAR of getting divorced.
Of facing the world alone.
Of being accountable for their choices and their whole existence.
Mindset: What if I walk away? I will feel lonely. Guilty. I will be ALONE. Miserable in the "short" run.
I don't care about what happens in the long run? I want to feel safe and part of something right now.
I want an easy fix. I can't take any more pain.
Change is hard.
We all have past experiences that have molded us in a specific shape but that doesn't mean we have to keep living like this.
We are free to break the mold and reshape in the exact way we want.
We can be whoever we want to be.
The limiting voices will always BE there but that doesn't mean we have to listen to them.
We can rewire our brain to listen and respond to the voice(s) that suggest what is best for us.
A little hard at first but I promise it gets easier.
And if the negative atmosphere is always present and nobody gets your positive ideas then stop sharing until you find people that do.
You don't have to waste your energy convincing people that don't want to understand you.
And you don't need anybody's approval to think a certain way.
Just DO.
See you soon,
Love
SahanaYoga
This post was inspired by a short conversation I had with 
He said: "I wonder, as you became more attuned to yourself and your heart, do you feel like you always know what your voice is telling you to do? Do you have doubts in making decisions? Do you think that those things only emerge as a consequence of internal resistance?"
A wonderful feedback from the steemit community that gave me some food for thought.
Today's post was a more elaborate answer.
