Dear ashween,

I really think you are quite right, i am a man, and did do stupid things when i was young. Learned of it, and from my 20 years of age, i stopped laying and faced my own feelings. ( i dont think that many people do that) But that indeed made me quite my relation, just so i was free to do what i wanted.

And not hurt anyone. Till i meet my soulmate, Which luckly for me was a girl, so we fell in love, i could't even think of a other girl.

But it ended quite quick because she choose a other, oke can happen.

What i wanna say is this,
Man, only learn when they act.
The act is the lesson, but may not be nice.

and not every man is taking the actions/acts to learn this, or wont have the balls.

Thanks for the post.
Good luck
Slossie Gogem