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When things are not going as well as I want at home, when I see everything difficult about my children's education, I read the topics that can help me relax first, and then I think it's possible to help. When I know the new parenting strategies, I can reinvent myself as a mother. If something is wrong, I try it in a different way.

In the previous article, I commented, how difficult are the days, when we have small children at home. I told them that, in order to face certain behaviors and stages of our children, it is necessary to know their interior, for example, that they are thinking about the moments of a tantrum.

We obtained knowledge about the sides of the child's brain and its tasks, the differences between the left hemiferium that is more logical and the more emotional decade and how to help a horizontal integration of our children's brain.

To achieve a full and creative life in which the brains of our children work with what both sides contribute and is not dominated by any of them, there must be a correct communication and subsequent integration of both.

Today we will talk about a strategy that helps integrate the sides of children's brains, achieving the balance of their emotions: connect and redirect ...

# Connect and redirect the child's brain

We as parents have experienced times when our children say things and complain in appearance for no reason.

CONNECT:

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Connect emotionally with our children is to tune their emotions and learn to respect their stages, to know that their needs and thoughts are appropriate for their age. When a child feels angry, the logic for him does not make sense, it is necessary to integrate this emotional load, responding to the emotional needs of the right brain.

We must take advantage of those small moments of tantrums to connect with our children. At this moment the logical answers do not work and, as much as it seems absurd and incoherent the reason why our children make a tantrum, remember that for them they are real and important. They see their problems as we see, the only difference is that their concerns are not debt payments, their concerns are in tune with their age. It is a problem for them to open the package of cookies easily, not fall asleep on time and, we must respect the emotional load that this generates.

HOW DO WE CONNECT?

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To deactivate a tension situation, it is worth locating ourselves at the level of our eyes, bowing, touching them lightly, nodding and being empathetic.
Give importance to your thoughts and emotions.
We must talk less and listen more. If the child is talking uncontrollably, bothering him will not work, just listen and try to find what our child wants to tell us.
Let's be a mirror, if we reflect what we hear because our children will feel happy and know that we are paying attention.
Now that we can connect with our children and that the right hemisphere feels understood, we will redirect it using the left hemisphere. Remember that "every problem or situation can be an apprenticeship".

REDIRECT: Imagen relacionada

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My personal experience

I have a three-year-old girl, on occasion, she comes to me crying and telling me that she does not want to take a bath that she wants to watch children's videos.

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Resultado de imagen para mama banandose con su hija

The afternoons at my house are messy, let's say. Tasks, games, baths, and dinners occupy everything. Normally I would have gone to answer my girl something I said that type to shower then to shower. However, this time I remembered what I studied and decided to put it into practice, the first thing I had to do was connect with my daughter saying: I understand that you do not want to shower, because you're having a great time with your videos, right? At that moment he stopped crying, gave me a hug and told me that he wanted to watch the videos with me and dance together and how much he loves me. We had connected. Then he touched the redirect saying that you know you have to take a shower, because if we do not smell a little and do not want to, what does not?

As parents learn to balance their own emotions, without hesitating between their own feelings of guilt and anger, they can support and structure it more easily. Being well-intentioned and tuned will help children to have an emotional balance, learn to channel their failures, overcoming their fears. remember that we are the main example for our children, it is our responsibility that our children in the future are emotionally intelligent adults.

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