It's important that she respect your boundaries and not intrude into your life without your permission. That has to be very difficult for you and I hope she can understand that you need your space because it's not good to push yourself on people, it's causes resentment. I don't know what she's trying to accomplish by upsetting you. I'll mute her now, so she can't interfere with our conversations and hope she find peace, happiness and understanding towards you in your wishes.