That's good that you removed the toxic people from you life, some people don't have the strength to do that and they get brought down with the negativity. I don't think some people are cut out to be Mothers and it's sad when selfish narcissists have children because it's so harmful on children to grow up in this environment. It's hard when our childhoods have so much trauma and pain and then the ones who cause this try and be in our lives after all the damage they have caused. I believe it would be a struggle to forgive these people if they are still set in their negative ways and try and become involved in our lives again. Bad memories keep coming back and it's so difficult to heal when you are subjected to trauma between the ages of 0-6 because this time is so critical in our development. It's very upsetting when narcissists try and become involved in our lives when they realize they have no-one else and that is why they try and cling on. I could never damage someone and be cruel to anyone and it's hard to understand people who are like this. If Mothers want to have a good relationship with their children then they need to raise them right with love, attention and praise. If they are abusive it's very difficult to form a relationship with them later on. I hope your Mom can leave you in peace and let you heal because there is nothing positive that she is adding to your life, but generating anger and annoyance. If she says she loves you then she has to respect your wishes and your boundaries and let you be. I'm thankful to connect with and honored to have you as a friend here on Steemit. You're so Awesome :)