In fact you did choose who would be your parents for the learning experiance would. Take responsibility for the first dission you made on entering the world. The abillites, our residual memorys, body coditions. All are a part of the experiance. You chose what to do with each.

Fair is indead missused. As is the word love in english. The responce for me is the same. What do you realy mean with the word? Or any word for that matter!

One can assume that the other dose not have the same as you. Because of this they will respond diffrently. You can’t change how they respond. But you can yours. This is reflected in teaching our kids life is not ‘fair’ and it is what you do with it that counts for you.