Correct me if I'm wrong @cosimo but it seems you are pointing out an issue of framing.

One man's razor knife, is another man's cardboard box opener.

Weapon vs tool.

That bolded text in your first message above, is effective because it highlights the problem in a direct, visceral way.

Anyone reading that, can't help but feel a connection to what's being said and a call to take action. I can see it. If you can develop a process to let him see what you see, it might be very helpful.