The fact that you internalized this experience and found a way to understand the situation in a way that would make you feel you have grown from it is the (only) thing that matters, IMHO. People do what they do, and it is not their job to attend to our demands, nor ours to complain if they offend us. These are all just circumstances, which does not matter one bit. All that matters is how we deal with the circumstances that we have zero control over (again, IMHO).