There's no doubt whatsoever, you are great.
You've gone through a lot in relationships in the past as you have shared numerously.

Truth is that no one is with us in the the world and being INTJ is just perfect, I never knew that till you mentioned and clearly that's who I am also.
There's a lot for us to attain for ourselves so doing what doesn't take us forward one step is a total waste of time.

Keep shining in your light, basking in splendour.